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When your kids ask you to play with them

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Santa01 · 22/04/2020 16:10

I love my children more than anything but a shiver goes down my spine when they ask me to play with them, specially anything Lego/play doh or Sylvanian families related...

Please tell me I'm not the only one or else that I'm the worst parent for not getting excited about little rabbits or square pieces of plastic....

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limpbizkit · 23/04/2020 07:27

@screamingkid thank you. You've made me feel so much better that I hate arts and crafts and seldom even attempt it. I'm a terrible 'play' mum. I really try my best. But I've got zero imagination and it all deteriorates my mental health

limpbizkit · 23/04/2020 07:31

On the contrary my DMIL is absolutely fantastic at playing. She can sit on the floor for hours with them playing imaginary stuff (and she's bloody good at it too) part of me resents her for being what I struggle to be to them but the other far larger part thanks God they have her to play with.

ScreamingKid · 23/04/2020 07:42

@limpbizkit. You're welcome. Honestly though parenting can be tough so play to your strengths to make things easier. Your kids have a grandparent able to do the imagination stuff and you will be doing something else that she cant do instead. It take a village to raise a child.

As I said mine are teens now, they couldn't give a fig about whether I played with them or did arts and crafts. They remember the puddle and going to the park alot because I did that instead. Wink

CoodleMoodle · 23/04/2020 08:03

First thing my 6yo said when she came in this morning was "Guess who I am?"

She's asked me that a thousand times a day since she was about 3, and changes her mind constantly throughout, depending on what she's been reading/watching/playing. Then she designates characters to me, DH and DS (who is only a toddler and doesn't give a shit if he's Olaf or a goblin or George Pig or whatever). The rules change as well, so I'm always in trouble for something.

DS is 21mo and is a big vehicle fan. All day, every day, it's "Mama, brum brum." Sad I can just about deal with but after hours and hours of "Mama, brum brum" where I do it wrong all the time because he also changes his mind about the rules...

Lego building (following the instructions), reading, sand/water play, baking, colouring - all fine. Just please don't make me be a cat or line up cars for 12hrs a day.

Blackbeans · 23/04/2020 08:49

I'm good at drawing & painting but I absolutely cant stand arts and craft with kids. I also dont mind occasionally doing lego but I want to do it myself alone, not with kids

Frankly I cant see any adult who enjoys getting down to a child's intellectual level for more than a few minutes

ActuallyItsEugene · 23/04/2020 09:04

Ah I hate playing pretend.

DD wants to play frozen where we have to sing the same song over and over again, or Moana where we sing the same song.
Playing with her Peppa Pig house drives me to the brink too.

I've been trying recently to get her to play on her own because I just can't do it anymore.

I'm more than happy to colour, paint, bake, do crafts, play board games.
But playing pretend = no.

Gooseygoosey12345 · 23/04/2020 09:18

Arts and crafts I actually quite enjoy with them, but DS is obsessed with cars and his tracks at the minute and we just have to drive them round and round and occasionally knock each other off the track. It's kind-numbing. Luckily he's happy to play in the garden. DD has been entertaining herself for years and is at the age where she rarely wants me to join in and then it'll be a video game which I quite enjoy anyway. There's too much of an age gap for them to really enjoy playing with each other

puds11 · 23/04/2020 09:21

Fucking hate LEGO. I think I’m pretty shite at playing to be honest. I’ll play a board game, do crafts, play catch etc and bake but anything imaginary I cannot bear. I didn’t like it when I was a child.

tigerbear · 23/04/2020 09:30

Thank god for this thread!
DD (age 8) has never been much into this kind of play, and I’ve always thought it’s something we ‘should’ be doing for some reason. She’s an only child, and not very good at entertaining herself, so won’t go off and play dolls, Lego etc by herself, so apart from Lego, any doll type stuff she’s ever had, like Playmobil/Sylvanians never got played with.

We always used to spend AGES setting up all the playmobil ‘lands’ but after about an hour of set up each time, we’d sort of sit and look at it and be like ‘er, what now?’.

DD is nearly 9 now, and I think getting beyond stuff like this anyway, however she does still like the idea of getting toys like this for birthday/Christmas, she still likes the idea of it, but is never interested in actually playing. Eg, she wanted loads of Generation Doll stuff for Christmas, which we begrudgingly bought, and now takes up loads of floor space, but she’s only played with it a few times.
Last week, I suggested playing with it all (through gritted teeth, as I just feel it’s such a waste not too), and it was obvious we were just doing it to humour one another.
The dolls were off to a horse show, and like PP, whatever I made the dolls or horses do, it was just right: ‘No Mummy, the dolls don’t say that, Mummy stop making the horses neigh, it’s a bit embarasing’!

We sort of rushed the horses round the course once, made one of them the winner, looked at each other and DD was like/ are we done now?
Despite this, she’s asking for more of these dolls for birthday 😬

limpbizkit · 23/04/2020 09:36

**We always used to spend AGES setting up all the playmobil ‘lands’ but after about an hour of set up each time, we’d sort of sit and look at it and be like ‘er, what now?’. GrinGrinGrin love it

limpbizkit · 23/04/2020 09:36

Bold fail

limpbizkit · 23/04/2020 09:46

Also if my kids then don't want to pretend play or do arts and crafts I then get paranoid thinking 'shit they don't want to do it because I never suggest it and they don't know how to do it. It's all my fault. I better go interrupt their perfectly happy game and pretend to be an exploding asteroid' Grin

tigerbear · 23/04/2020 21:48

@limpbizkit Grin

Dontsayyouloveme · 23/04/2020 21:53

I get a pit in my stomach if it’s nerf wars or anything physical! Nerf drives me made and I’m constantly on the go so I’d rather not have to play football or run around the house with a bloody nerf gun! The dream for me is a board game!

Shmithecat2 · 23/04/2020 22:04

Ugh. I hate roleplay. I don't mind crafts/painting etc except ds wants to do it but in reality it means he wants to sit and watch me do it, and then deface whatever I've done. Or he just wants to throw things, run, jump, etc. None of which I have the will or the energy for. I miss school, softplay and the pool 😭

midnightstar66 · 23/04/2020 22:15

I love Lego but any pretend play... im afraid I don't do that. Hopefully not damaged my children but I just can't.

midnightstar66 · 23/04/2020 22:21

On and I don't bake either.. I'm a terrible parent 😆

Letthemysterybe · 23/04/2020 22:42

I have spent far too much of this lockdown playing with fucking superzings. I try to get away with just waggling them about, but my daughter demands that I make them speak. Aaahhhhh!

TiddleTaddleTat · 23/04/2020 22:58

Fortunately my DD aged 6 no longer asks for the pretend play with us. Used to and I could manage a few minutes but then... so bored....
I try my best but I'm more in my element when we do other things together -read, craft, gardening, cooking, go for a walk and point things out, etc.

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