Hi. So I have a friend & she gave up her job as her partner worked away and her children were both quite close in age at the time. So as well as this she had some issues with her partner which are all ongoing (won’t go into detail). The original plan was for her to do work when he was home. Fast forward this never happened and she’s been a SAHM. In recent times the children have got older and things have got easier from a childcare point of view as they are school age. We have a good friendship and we speak weekly on the phone & we are in regular contact. The situation I’ve explained seemed to make sense at the time and I didn’t think anything was unusual as she’s always said she’d love to go back to work.. but it was mainly due to lack of childcare. One of my best friends (they don’t know each other) never believed this in the first place she thought it was an excuse. It all sounded perfectly reasonable to me. In recent times I’ve been a little shocked by some of her comments and confused I sent her a job and she asked me if I’ve applied, then she mentioned she was tired and asked the neighbour next door to her if she could take her child to school. Her partners car broke and at the current time they both were at home yet the neighbours were taking the child to school. Also she mentioned that people think she’s lazy (her words) as she was telling why she can’t go to work. I just listened but tbh I’m baffled. I asked her at a later date as she stated it’s not worth it for her finically and she explained that she would have to pay her rent. I just asked her in a nice way why she thought she wouldn’t have to pay it when she would have 2 incomes. I know juggling kids is not easy but it’s all for a good cause if you want to be able to do a few extras like send your child to an extra activity. I do feel for her but at the same time I can’t help but think she needs to help herself a bit more. I was so shocked about the rent comment. With her own words she told me she’s glad she’s on benefits as at least she knows where the money is coming from. I probably take these comments a little to heart as I have to juggle single & my childcare issues and x is also an on going problem too. Thoughts??