How do I stop being so sensitive?

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And taking things so personally?
I've always been like this (definitely sensitive) but it has got worse since I had DD 2 years ago. I've no resilience to critisim and just crumble.
Today, I had to make phone calls home to parents (SEND teacher.)
One parent said their child didn't feel academcially stetched enough. The child joined after February half term, I work part time and had her for a total of 12 days before the school shut down for Corona Virus. In that time, I baselined her and got to know her. I explained this to the parent and directed them to the home learning I set up but just felt stung.
Its so silly, I can't fix the situation right now but this sort of thing will play on my mind for days.
I'm so over emotional about things. I'm my second baby in Sept and I know I can put a lot of these things down to hormones but I can't live the rest of my life like this!
It's affecting my job and home life and I am building so much resentment to the people I feel have treated me unfairly. It feels so irrational.
I need some perspective! Help me Mumsnet!!

*due my second baby

I deal with a lot of similar things.
I try to think about how the other person is feeling rather than how I am feeling. It protects me but also enables me to defuse the situation.

A support network of people in the same job is good backup too.

Thank you @FaFoutis Thinking about it, I usually have pretty good empathy for other people but when something happens to me, I really make it all about me. I can never seperate things.
My DH is great and very supportive. He doesn't always get the job side of things but will always listen to me.
I'm working on trying not to make my job bigger than my life but it is an all consuming role.

You are never going to please every parent. For every one tat says their child isn't chaise enough, there will be one that thinks their child is a genius and should be doing harder stuff.

Do you feel you took the right approach? Try to see if there is anything you can learn from this.

If you reflect on it, you might find that you could have done some things differently, or you might feel that you took the right approach. Whichever, you either learn something (great! You can tap into that going forward!) or you can put the criticism aside (and if doesn't sound like they were criticising you personally, chances are it was the parents that felt their child wasn't being stretched rather than the child) knowing that you did a good job, and you have set a good baseline to move forward from.

Be kind to yourself. Maybe think about what you would say to a colleague in the same situation, and listen to that instead.

Thank you for the responses. I think I just need to get a grip. I over think a lot and analyse everything people say to me. It's exhausting.
I would be really interested if anyone has any coping strategies?

I have struggled with anxiety and a really good piece of advice I was given was “Check the facts”. The facts are that you had this child part time for half a term, during which you assessed her and started to get to know her. None of that points to any failing on your part.
The parents are probably struggling, lockdown may have exacerbated concerns they already had about their child’s development/learning/well being. But that is not your fault- you were and are doing your best and they were using you as a scapegoat. Remember to check the facts and consider why people are acting the way they are.

Also bear in mind they both the child and parents are more probably more anxious than usual, especially about home learning. I can totally relate to you, I am very sensitive as well and overthink massively

I think you have anxiety. Which is a thing, quite common. Loads of advice out there, skills and support. Loads of people have it

Thank you everyone. You've given me the perspective I need. Thanks for the advice