Im starting yet another diet. Yawn! Can’t do this anymore

[Ribrabrob]

Monday tomorrow, means new diet day...

Seriously. I need to lose weight and I need to do it now. My knees are buckling, I’m tired just walking up some stairs and I’m hiding in coats during this lovely spring weather.

I’ve had Dominos and Indian takeaway today. I should be ashamed even writing that but I’ve lost all sense of shame and what’s normal now. Food controls me but I don’t want it to anymore.

I need to do this. I’m in my 20s, mildly attractive and a nice person yet I’m just wasting my life being fat. Enough is enough now. But I do this every Sunday, but then by Monday evening I’m back to the ‘actually you know what? I don’t mind being fat’ kidding myself mantra.

Any tips or advice please? Anyone in the same boat? I’ve lost control and I’m not sure how to get it back.

100% in the same boat. Ate all the snacks in the house today in preparation for tomorrow so I'm here in solidarity.

Snap, just finished a dominos too 😬

Start with no takeaways, 5 veg / fruit - fresh or froxzen only, and walk Around block every day
Next week download couch 2 5k
Get some supportive mates
Use a week of hello fresh etc if it helps take away the wtf do I eat / shop atm (cheaper than takeaway and often on offer)
Look at a future you what’s your real goal. Not a dress size, a lower blood pressure, better knees, reduced diabetes risk etc
Go girl

No advice here op but I can totally relate. I always plan healthy meals but I’m such a sucker for chocolate/cakes/biscuits after my meals which counteracts any healthiness! I just feel that meals just aren’t filling me these days and I always feel like I ‘need’ something sweet afterwards. Such a bad habit to get into

Can you start exercising? If I exercise it makes me not eat loads of crap.

My advice is get organised. Have a look online for some healthy recipes and meal plan. Then do a food shop and only buy what is on your list. Don't forget to include healthy snacks. The biggest challenge is letting myself get so hungry and then I can't be bothered to prepare anything healthy. Dedicate a couple of hours to meal prep. This doesn't mean cooking all your meals for the week in one go but cutting up some veggies and fruit for the week, prepping some ingredients for dinner, so when you hit the 3pm slump, you reach for healthy options instead of crisps. It's about breaking a habit rather than depriving yourself. Good luck!

In the same boat. I actually lost it all and swore I'd never let it happen or put myself in a position where i have do it again.

4 years later, here I am.
4 stone overweight and getting married in 5 months 🤦‍♀️
And i am just numb to it ive been saying i will start for a year and i just exercise less and eat more. I have back pain now it hurts a lot... WHY???? Why do I do this?
My diet starts tomorrow too and it needs to stick this time...

Download my fitness pal and count your calories! And start light exercise and build it up! You can do it!

read The Obesity Code. Look up diet doctor.com. Read "The Obesity Code" and the more recently published"lLife in the fasting Lane"
I promise you, it will be life changing - if you really want it to be...

Go to OA?

Another vote for my fitness pal. If I see all the calories I'm eating, it stops me snacking so much.

Exercise. Realising how much exercise you need to work off the calories from chocolate/ cakes/ snacks is enough to put you off them. Make a conscious decision to reach for a piece of fruit instead, less fun but gratifying in its own way.

If you can, exercise with someone fitter than you to motivate yourself to push a bit harder in each workout.

1. Make sure you are doing 10k steps a day, even if that means doing laps around your house/garden

1. Prepare a lunch box each morning. In between breakfast and dinner, that’s all you can eat.

1. Drink a shit ton of water. Good for so many reasons.

1. Look into intermittent fasting. It’s been a game changer for me.

1. If you slip up, don’t let that be an excuse for the rest of the day/week going to shit. If you had a bouquet of flowers and one was wilted, you wouldn’t throw the whole bunch out.

Don’t think of it as “another diet”. You already associate diets with failure. Start a new lifestyle. Don’t make it so drastic it’s not sustainable.

Go look at Team RH on Facebook.

Loads of help, support, camaraderie and a kick up the bum when you need it. The last diet you’ll ever do because they’ll teach you how to do things right.

💐

You don't need a diet, you need to eat less. That's it, it's not rocket science. You can't consume more calories than your body can utilise in a day if you want to lose weight.

Another vote for Team RH. Go and watch some videos on fb. It'll change your life.

It's a change you need, not just a temporary diet.

I was the same. i gained weight with meds and gave up, eating what I liked for comfort until I frankly got sick of looking huge and wanted my reasonably nice face and figure back. I'm now down from a size 18-20 to a 12-14 and want to be a 10-12.

I would suggest making a start with my fitness pal, work out how many cals you need to lose weight, log everything and focus on sticking to it for a week to start. with. Even if that means using hello fresh or stocking up on ready meals for that week. Once you get that initial shift from eating whatever you like out of the way you can find more economical/ homemade ways of doing it.

that said, don't worry if it takes you a couple of days to reduce from your normal diet to this calorie allowance. don't give up because you had, say 1600 then 1500 cals instead of 1300 straight away. it's still a lot less than two takeaways a day.

have healthy snacks around that keep such as carrots or low cal mini cheeses/ sweet- tooth alternatives. if restricting your calories you will get into a habit of not snacking and using your allowance on meals but until you get used to it, don't let yourself get so hungry you get tempted to overeat.

Increase your exercise- 10k steps each day is doable and makes a difference. this could be indoors or around the local streets. work up to it if need be. YouTube workouts are good. resistance bands help tone your muscles and don't cost a huge amount.

drink lots of water.

I like to allocate most calories to dinner, and would recommend deciding which meal works for you to focus on.

16:8 works well for me too but don't try and make too many changes at once, get that first week or two out of the way first.

You can do this and will feel so much better.

Could you look up low carb boot camp on mumsnet? I adopted their 10 rules last October and lost close to 2 stone and have breezily kept it off since.

Joe Wicks’ 90-day plan is on offer atm, think it’s £50. I’ve not done it but friends have – needs serious commitment but you get support and proper results. And it’s not a diet, more a shift in lifestyle.

For me I need a proper plan to lose weight and I need to lose it reasonably fast otherwise I give up!
I'm doing Michael moseley's fast 800 diet with intermittent fasting so I eat those 800 calories in an 8 hour window.
After the first few days it's surprisingly easy and the results are fast. I can cope knowing that in another 6 weeks I should be back in a healthy bun having lost c2 stone.
I track everything I eat in my fitness pal.
Really needed to do something as my knees were hurting and I wasn't going to have that in my 30s!

Not a healthy bun! No sure there's any such thing!
I meant healthy bmi

What’s your family situation? Alone? Partner? Children?

Can you just change one thing for 3 days? Drink water instead of sweet drinks, drop one snack, take 1/3 of your portion off your plate?

Then once that is getting to be a habit, add another thing. Then another etc.

I find that doing it gradually works better than overhauling everything.

So don't get 2 takeaways. Get 1 and split it over 2 meals.

Or get a takeaway but no sides.

Clean your teeth after every meal and it'll stop you reaching for the next snack.

Thank you all for the advice.

I’m exactly where I knew I’d be again today so I really do need to look into all your advice