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16 year old and 21 year old

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Nerdcc · 19/04/2020 15:29

Bit of a strange one...
So my granddaughter is coming over and we are planning on taking her to london ( lives in Londonderry) Would it be safe for them both to share a room. Both are girls and pretty sensible.

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CircleofWillis · 19/04/2020 15:30

Safe in what way?

CircleofWillis · 19/04/2020 15:32

Who is the second girl?

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 19/04/2020 15:33

Who is 16 and who is 21?
What is their relationship to each other? Siblings? Romantic? Cousins?
Safe in what way?

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Nerdcc · 19/04/2020 15:35

Granddaughter is 21 and my daughter is 16.

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chipsandpeas · 19/04/2020 15:37

why wouldnt it be safe?

givemeacall · 19/04/2020 15:38

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Oblomov20 · 19/04/2020 15:39

Eh?

iklboo · 19/04/2020 15:39

Eh?! In what way would it NOT be safe? Or do you mean CV19 related? If so, your granddaughter probably won't be able to travel.

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/04/2020 15:40

Why is everyone traveling at the moment?

Patch23042 · 19/04/2020 15:41

Presumably post-lockdown? So perfectly safe (obviously).

Tinty · 19/04/2020 15:43

Which bit of essential travel is ‘planning to take her to London’ in?

You can’t go for a jolly anywhere, you should be staying home, sharing rooms or not.

Pinkblueberry · 19/04/2020 15:46

Why would it be unsafe?? Confused

MsChatterbox · 19/04/2020 15:49

You're right, it is a bit of a strange one!

ZaZathecat · 19/04/2020 15:53

Can see no earthly reason why two female close relatives shouldn't share a room, unless you suspect one of them of being abusive, which you obviously don't.

TherapistInATabard · 19/04/2020 15:57

Eh? Your 21 yo granddaughter lives in Northern Ireland but is travelling to see you (where?), and you’re going on a trip to London. You want to know if it’s ‘safe’ for her to share a room with your 16yo daughter?

Is this all happening after lockdown is lifted and we’re free to travel again? If so, yes I don’t see why they shouldn’t share a room. If not, what the fuck?

CircleofWillis · 19/04/2020 16:07

OP can you clarify what aspect of safety you are referring to? If it is Covid 19 related then your granddaughter shouldn't be traveling to you and you all should not be traveling to London.

PiggyPokkyFool · 19/04/2020 16:08

You have a 21 year old granddaughter?
You have a 16 years old daughter?
Despite the lockdown the 21 year old is travelling from NI?

This cannot be true!

fandajji · 19/04/2020 16:17

To be fair, my mother has a 13 year old grandson and a 6 year old daughter.

Nothing else makes sense though!

Anonuser1 · 19/04/2020 16:19

Eh?

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Standrewsschool · 19/04/2020 16:43

Two girls/women with a five year age gap - fine to be sharing a room.

However, you do know we are in lockdown, and people aren’t actually travelling further than their local shops or workplace, not visiting friends and family, and definantly not having day trips to London?!

merryhouse · 19/04/2020 16:54

Presumably when you talk about safety you mean "would it be safe for the two of them to have a separate hotel room from the accompanying adults?"

(And presumably you are talking about When All This Is Over, obviously.)

In which case, yes of course it would. The 21yo is an adult, so much of an adult that she'd be able to be the booking person on a CentreParcs holiday. The 16yo is also perfectly capable - legally could live by herself.

Nothing is going to happen in a hotel room that would put these girls in any more danger than you would be.

PiggyPokkyFool · 19/04/2020 20:45

That's amazing @fandajji - I am in my 50s and have never known anyone who has a grandchild older than their own child.
In your case how did that work? Assuming young parents so an age of 18 when the first child was born and then that child was 18 when she had the grandchild, the mum would be 36 and then 7 years later had her own child so 43.
@givemeacall - wow - how old was he when the baby was born?
Notice the OP has disappeared....

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Between4and30letters · 19/04/2020 20:53

Not related to OP but my great grandparents were the same - some fifteen - twenty + years between siblings I think .
Ditto with grandparents - massive age gaps .

It’s the same right through family tree . Siblings born from mother being 18 or so right through to mid 40s in some families . Catholic so I suppose with contraception not being permitted as such, if you were still fertile you still had children . Very sadly seems to have resulted in two or three mothers dying or being very, very ill .

I’m 29 and have second cousins (same generation as me) who are newborns, it’s very confusing .