School class mums what's ap group

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Does anyone else out there find that anything they comment on however bland is completely ignored. Recently sent invite to my little ones birthday party and nothing. My little one is adopted, not that I feel able to or even feel it is fair on my child to share that with them, and this would be their first party something they are so excited about. In the last year they have been to 8 parties and dropped off/posted gifts to those with birthdays who were supposed to have parties during lockdown. I understand people may think we will still be in lockdown but given bday is august could have responded depends on situation to just ignore is rude or am I old fashioned as i am an older mum of a 4 year old. I want to give my child the party they long for as after the abuse and neglect they suffered before entering the care system I want them to know they do deserve it. Anyone else struggled with school mums what's ap group?

It's far too early for an August invitation. I'd be wary of responding because if you say no with months notice you look like you are snubbing the person, but until we know when lockdown is ending I have no idea what committments I'm going to have. We have family and close friends we're not going to see for who knows how long so there's no way I'd be committing to a party on a set date that I'd feel obliged not to back out of.

It’s completely mad to be sending out an invite for August now, and it’s absolutely nothing to do with your child being adopted. I know several parents with adopted children and they all seem to do just fine in the school chat groups. However, as other people have pointed out, we are currently in lockdown, no one knows what they are doing in August, and no one wants to make any commitment at all because no one knows what the world will be like then but if there is the slightest chance of a normal holiday many people would take that opportunity, so will not be interested in making a commitment now. Not meaning to be unkind, people will not not book a holiday because they said in April that they would go to a child’s birthday party. My oldest has a birthday in August, and we have never managed to get all the members of her closest friendship group together on her actual birthday, as there is always someone on holiday. We go for a July party date instead, before they break up. And we generally send the invites out at about the end of June. If I received an invite for August now, I would be inclined not to even mention it as it is so far off and in uncertain times. If pressed for an answer I would say that I would reply closer the time but if a commitment was essential I would have to say no rather than disappoint by not being able to be there.

Honestly it’s not personal I would t commit to an August birthday for my dearest friends child especially not this year when everything so up in the air and mental

I invited the whole year group of 45 to my sons birthday party 2 years ago. I'm still waiting for 30 replies! People don't reply these days even though we have multiple channels that we didn't have around when I had my eldest - 15 year difference.
I understand what you want for your DD but other people are not going to measure up and you are both going to be disappointed if you carry on having feelings like this. There are a few adopted kids in my sons year and their mums are not treated any differently. Whilst I appreciate the journey you and your DD have been on it will help her enormously if you are both able to have a more relaxed attitude with the school folks.