Now don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, I'm just a little shocked and need to write it down.
Dh and I have been together for almost 13 years, married for 8 and have a 9 month old ds. He never wanted children, he only agreed to have ds as he knew how much having a family meant to me and I issued an ultimatum (I'm not proud but when you want something giving a this or that is the only way) he knows I've always wanted 2.
Anyway, after 4 years of not actively preventing pregnancy a year of trying and 3 miscarriages, we have a gorgeous healthy ds.
This lockdown period has been good for us as a couple because we're all in the house together and not had a break except for shipping trips for weeks now, although we've bickered, we've realised how close and how happy we are as a couple, I'm aware how lucky I am here, believe me.
We were talking last night and he suggested once we're out of lockdown I go to the GP and have my coil removed (I had it fitted in November) and we start trying for number 2.
This has really thrown me as for the first 3 months of ds life he struggled to settle into fatherhood, but as ds has developed a personality and started crawling, pulling himself up, generally being a person, dh is loving being a dad.
From day one he was brilliant, helping around the house, changing nappies, doing feeds (ds was express fed to 6 months so all bottle) taking ds out when he got home from work to give me a break. He was basically doing the things that he thinks a dad "should do" but like I said for the first few months he was just doing it, not because he wanted to spend time with ds, although clearly they bonded because ds crawls round the house after him now and he uses ds in his home workouts, it's so cute!
My point is anyway, is it really possible for a man that never wanted children to go 180 and after having one for his partner to decide a second would be good?