Two faced or what

[fourpeasinapod]

I work with two women, let’s call them Sharon and Laura.

I would consider both Laura and Sharon to be my friends, we do talk outside of work on and off, I talk more to Laura though.

Anyway, Sharon doesn’t really bother with me and Laura outside of work anymore and doesn't really bother. Laura was the first person to talk about Sharon behind her back to me, saying that she’s a weird bitch and that she’s shit at make up. (She has her own beauty business outside of work from home and so does Laura)

She then said that she’s so up herself and that she’s trying to do her (Laura) our of business on Facebook (they both have FB pages for their businesses)

Then boom. I go on Facebook tonight to see that Sharon had updated her Facebook profile pic and Laura had heart reacted it.

Yes it’s trivial, by why do people slag each other off and then next minute they’re all over each other?!? The way Laura had gone on and on about Sharon recently would seem that she loathed her but I can’t understand why she’s hearting her pictures on Facebook.

Makes me angry with Laura

Unless you're all 12 I'd just let it go without another thought.

Get better ‘friends’.

Oh, and do I detect from the fact that you say that ‘Laura was the first to talk about Sharon behind her back’ that you joined in slagging off Sharon, and are now crapping yourself in case Laura switches sides and tells Sharon?

My advice is still to get better friends.

@Pennywort yeah to an extent, although I don’t think I’ve really talked about Sharon to be honest.

I’ve only ever said to Laura that Sharon doesn’t bother with me anymore and that I wasn’t invited to her 40th birthday night out (she invited others to it, Laura wasn’t invited either)

So yeah I don’t think I’ve really said anything bad about her

In cases like this I always ask the middle person (you) what you said to stop the conversation or stick up for your other friend.
That is where my main issue lays.
It says more about you than it does them.

These are work colleagues.
Time to get actual “friends”.

I wouldn’t have stuck up for Sharon when Laura was talking about her because she never bothers anymore and didn’t invite both
Of us to her night out

I know but we all had a great friendship group, we just clicked the minute we met and always had a good laugh and giggle in work.

Unfortunately we aren’t as friendly anymore

But it’s perfectly permissible to drift apart, especially if you’re only friends in the first place because a job threw you together. Friendships end, and no one is to blame.

I can’t imagine you would expect Sharon to have felt she needed to invite you on a birthday night out when she’s drifted away from the group and clearly didn’t want to?

This all sounds like a very immature 'friendship'. Perhaps find yourself some proper friends, be a proper friend to them, and stop worrying what other people are doing on social media.

I know you are right. But it just made so annoyed seeing her heart react a profile picture of the woman she supposedly couldn’t stand!

Pfft. All sound about 12.

Come off Facebook and get some proper friends

It’s not really me, @Wolfiefan. I see that it’s more Laura and Sharon who are behaving like children.

It’s the fact that Laura moans on and on about Sharon and then goes on social media and acts like she is her best friend

Grow up.

@Starlight1243 why don’t you?

How very dare she. Are you really bovvered?

But it bothers you?
Maybe Laura is shallow and “likes” everything that pops up on FB?

Yes @Wolfiefan, it does bother me because I considered Laura a very good friend and a confidant and somebody I could trust so tbh it is a slap in my face for her to get on like that and moan on to me about it and then be best pals with her

Well.... you've learned that Laura is a two faced bitch who slags off Sharon and ergo will also slag off you.

I'd choose friends more carefully in future

Yep you are so right! @chatterbugmegastar