Firstly, I know there's much bigger and pressing issues at the moment and I know my work doesn't involve marks from PPE or burns behind my ears from face masks... those who's work does involve that, you're truly inspirational and I'm sorry if my post comes across as selfish but I'm so anxious.
I started a new job in November (a standalone HR role) which is in a shared office of 5 others who are like family and have been there for at least six years. They all know each other out of work, they're close friends, they've never had to share their office with a newbie before and they seem to have their backs up about me. We have no common interests and I'm 24, they're all 50+ and are quite snippy with me and have been since I first joined. I know she isn't a factor however I'm trying to paint a picture that we have literally nothing to talk about. I can't engage in any conversation outside of work. I raised it with my manager at the time (who is also friends with my colleagues out of work, very well off and is related somehow to the accountant). My background is very modern HR, all about engagement and helping strive towards business objectives but I'm also very junior still. I took this standalone role to gain more experience.
The accountant is very short with me, disregards anything I say, talks over me and snaps at me. On Thursday, she ended up screaming at me via video call. There's definitely a communication issue between us, I find her very confusing and her terminology very dated. It takes me a while to understand what her actual point is.
I've raised it with my manager a few weeks after I started and he laid into me. He's also very abrupt and said it's up to me to make the relationship work with them. I think it's a two way thing and colleagues should be welcoming and open to new people... ive never had team work issues before and when I've had personality reports done, they all came back to say I'm a real team player so I'm all confused.
I feel sick that I have to face her tomorrow, I don't want another conversation where she shouts... I can't raise it with my manager because he's pretty useless (not had a single review and he's never once asked how I'm finding the role) but I have a conversation that I know she'll talk over, shout about and become hostile around...
I know I'm in HR and this sort of thing is what I'm good at but I can't see the wood through the trees at the moment and I'm dreading it. 