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Seriously struggling today

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16more · 13/04/2020 17:32

Feel like I’ve hit a wall. Lockdown has really got to me today to the point I’ve sobbed over the washing up. Hate to moan cos everyone is in the same boat and I’m sure I’m not the only one feeling like this. I feel so lonely. DH is finding plenty of reasons to bugger off and do stuff which doesn’t really need doing. And cos I’m pregnant and isolating I can’t do anything so I just keep getting left with the kids without a second thought. Feel like I’m suffocating. Miss my family so much. How is everyone coping? How are you getting on with the kids? Feel so guilty for dd as she’s 20 months and just wish I could take her to the park and to see her nanny’s. So sorry if this sounds awful and moany, feel bad posting but had to get it off my chest

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AlltheRs · 14/04/2020 08:57

Hi 16more. I'm sorry I don't have many answers but surprised to see no one's answered you so...
I think it's probably normal to reach a low point in any ongoing situation you don't want to be in but have little choice over?
Pregnancy hormones can't be helping your situation either.

I think maybe try and remember why you are doing all this and that you have your lovely daughter safe and another little one on the way to make your family, even if your DH is being a plank right now. Maybe try talking to him about how you feel?
Possibly trying to plan what you'll be doing when it's all over might help you focus on something else?
It must be quite suffocating and I don't want to in any way belittle your situation, or feel guilty, but I promise you that the opposite is frightening and exhausting, and you are at least able and protected to look after your little ones, and maybe focus on that.

We aren't all in the same boat at all. Some of us already had leaky, overcrowded boats with dying motors and ragged sails that we worked to keep afloat. We never thought they'd take away ALL our work.

We are however all sailing on the same sea.

But there are many in leaking sinking boats while others are on comfortable ones but suffering.

There's so many lies about the 'help everyone's entitled to', and so many people only to happy to refuse to believe the actual reality for so many.

Our situation would not make you feel any better, so little point, but we are drowning here, everything threadbare and breaking, and no longer feel we any part of society. We have become other.

We've been abandoned to survive or not according to luck, fate, and whatever ingenuity I can muster. I'm between furious rage and total despondency, but have time for neither.

Gather your little family around you, try and talk to your DH about what he could do to help change things, and remember it honestly could be so much worse. Good luck and I hope someone with better advice comes along soon.

16more · 14/04/2020 10:53

Thank you for replying. You’ve hit the nail on the head there. I’m sorry to hear you’re having a shit time. I will put it down to pregnancy hormones as I feel much more positive today. So I shall send some positivity your way and I really hope things get better for you xx

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chocolateisavegetable · 14/04/2020 10:56

I hear you OP. I'm feeling extra shit myself today. I think we just have to tell ourselves that it's ok to feel like this, and hope that tomorrow feels easier.

MrsCastiel · 14/04/2020 11:07

I seem to be having at least one really shit day a week and speaking to relatives they seem to be the same.

At times like this we can't compare ourselves to others because we are the only ones living our lives. Yes we may be luckier than others and for that we must remain grateful, but that doesn't diminish the fact we are experiencing something that hasn't happened in living memory and we are all kinda flailing about and sometimes we need an outlet.

Speak to your husband, cry when you need to and try and have one little thing to look forward to each evening, that's just for you. A bath, a box set, some chocolate, a foot massage, craft, colouring book, anything you can think of.

Tske each day at a time, don't focus on next week. That way madness lies.

I hope today is better for you.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 14/04/2020 12:04

I’m not sure it’s just shit days either. There seems to be some part of every day that just feels rubbish and then you crack on and do something. I think you just have to accept it, go and have a cry or a rant and then move on.

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