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'You do you' is it new irritating patronising buzz statement?

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HarrySnotter · 13/04/2020 11:04

There have been so many annoying phrases (my bad/makes me stabby etc etc) but 'you do you' is the one I'm seeing all over the place at the moment and it pisses me right off. 😂 (I refuse to include stay safe as it's nice). Any others you hate?

Disclaimer - this is intended to be light-hearted, even though I am indeed a grumpy bastard most of the time.

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TimeAintNothing · 13/04/2020 11:36

"You do you" always comes with the unsaid assertion that the person saying it is better than the person they're saying it to.

Example: My children are fully dressed and doing maths rather than rolling around the trampoline in mismatched pyjamas but it's fine, you do you.

Bezalelle · 13/04/2020 11:41

I hate "It's ok not to be ok". I mean, the sentiment is fine, it just sounds so... wet.

I also dislike "Living my best life", usually doing something lame like drinking a coffee or sitting in the sun.

IWantAPinkHouse · 13/04/2020 12:29

I love you do you, although it can come across as passive aggressive, but I'd still like it on a t-shirt

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 13/04/2020 12:30

What does it even mean. Confused

Sirzy · 13/04/2020 12:31

I don’t think I have ever heard it!

IhateBoswell · 13/04/2020 12:32

The equivalent of Mind Your Own Business isn't it? Always a good notion.

Bluebooby · 13/04/2020 12:32

"That's on you". I'd only really heard this on TV but I had an argument with a friend and he said that to me and I was so annoyed by it, I forgot what we were arguing about.

Hippofrog · 13/04/2020 12:33

Sounds rude to me !! Doing oneself

Pelleas · 13/04/2020 12:34

You do you' is it new irritating patronising buzz statement?

Yes.

JonHammIsMyJamm · 13/04/2020 12:34

It’s the new ‘It is what it is’.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 13/04/2020 13:12

I’ve not heard it before

I’m confused by it Confused

1984isnow · 13/04/2020 13:16

Urghh whenever I see this I just think 'ooo you're 'ard' in Ricky Gervais voice. That's the only appropriate reply

ScorpionQueen · 13/04/2020 13:17

It does come across as very superior.
I'm perfect and doing everything right but you do you.

Xiaoxiong · 13/04/2020 13:20

The English version of this is "you carry on", sometimes with a passive-aggressive "love" thrown in at the end. And it's almost always judgemental in the way that Time describes above.

"I wouldn't eat that cake, but you carry on"
"I wouldn't feed my kids popcorn for dinner but you do you"

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HarrySnotter · 13/04/2020 13:25

I'm perfect and doing everything right but you do you.

This is it exactly! I've seen it on there threads in two days. It's creeping right in there people. 🤣

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WhiffOfBath · 13/04/2020 13:27

Yes, it's hateful. Along with the one Bluebooby mentions. And "calling someone out". You're not inviting them to a duel, so stop saying that you are.

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HarrySnotter · 13/04/2020 13:40

'Calling someone out' is just as bad @WhiffOfBath isn't it. Awful.

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ouch321 · 13/04/2020 13:41

Did it not come from a Nike advert?

TudorRoses · 13/04/2020 13:44

I've never come across it at all. You're right though, it is supremely annoying.

ScrapThatThen · 13/04/2020 13:49

I think it's live and let live, moving on from criticising and judging everyone. I wouldn't say it but I don't dislike it.

GarethSouthgatesWaistcoat · 13/04/2020 14:37

I've seen it a lot on Facebook. I find it tends to be used as hunnish encouragement.

As in "carry on, don't let the fuckers get to you". The person being encouraged is often the one at fault Hmm

HyperactivePineapple · 13/04/2020 15:00

I've not heard it in a patronising way, I've seen it used to try to support someone that is suffering from self doubt as to their next steps because they are comparing themselves to someone else in a related business field.

Rather than a 'well its not what I would do' comment its a 'be true to yourself' comment.

But I can see how it could easily be taken otherwise in a different setting.

Hotwaterbottlelove · 13/04/2020 15:15

I've heard it lots but only ever in a positive way. Can't say I'd use it myself but it's it just a new way of saying 'be yourself'?

RuffleCrow · 13/04/2020 15:21

It's really, really annoying! It's not even grammatically correct. Neither is "my bad". Although i don't mind that one so much as my asd 6 year old has taken to saying it in a very cute 'echolalia' way.

CarolineIngalls · 13/04/2020 15:27

My 13 year old asks me to use that phrase when I am telling him off for something.

"Mum, can't you just say " 'you do you' and ACCEPT me". This is usually for such infractions as an untidy bedroom or if I complain that he has been gaming for too long. He has been saying it for months, so the phrase is only new to the adult vernacular. It is appropriate for those under the age of 15, on anyone else it sounds like you're trying too hard.

It is so absurd it makes me laugh every time, which is probably why he rolls it out so often.