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Handhold needed: Abusive family member causing anxiety

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Jasmin82 · 12/04/2020 20:04

In February I had a mental health crisis and I was advised to go to the A&E at my local hospital (nearest mental health out of hours). A member of my family who I try to restrict contact with, found out and decided that there was no way I would go on my own and that they would take me. They changed my next of kin to themselves. I was assessed and allowed to go home to make an appointment with my GP the following day. This family member decided that they would go to the appointment with me.
It was following this appointment that I realised that they have been abusive for a number of years (physically and mentally/emotionally). I made a further appointment without telling anyone but my close friends and discussed my worries with a different doctor who agreed and referred me to a help group. Unfortunately, due to it not being a close family member (parents or siblings), there was little the help group could do other than advise me to call the police every time this family member abused me.
The issue is, I can't contact the police as, this family member has everyone believing that they can do no wrong and it would end with other family members coming round hammering on my door and accusing me of lying.
When the lockdown was announced, I thought that for at least a few weeks I wouldn't need to worry as they wouldn't be able to visit their parents who live on the same street. That's turned out not to be the case as they still visit and I can hear them talking on the street with their parents. It has made my anxiety so bad that, when someone rang my doorbell earlier, I honestly thought it was my abusive family member and panicked, setting off palpitations (it wasn't just someone with a wrong address). 5 hours later the palpitations are continuing.
I honestly don't know how much longer I can cope. All I want is to be able to sell my house so I can move away with only my friends knowing my new address.
I know that there are people who have it worse. I just needed to get how I'm feeling off my chest.

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Jasmin82 · 12/04/2020 20:44

And now been advised to go to A&E due to palpitations continuing for over 5 hours. I really don't want to go as not long had an ECG due to them which was fine so feels like it would be wasting A&E time and resources.

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Jasmin82 · 13/04/2020 03:49

Got back from A&E a couple of hours ago. Was seen super quickly. Had bloods, ECG and chest x-ray done. Took an iffy turn of goodness knows what while getting on the bed for ECG. Felt like I had pins and needles all over and nauseous with my sight even going a bit woozy.
ECG reveals I have a sinus arrhythmia which I had to look up when I got home as I'd never heard it before. Now have to phone GP next week to sort out a 24 hour heart check thingy. Everything else came back normal, even my perennially low hb which seems to have righted itself magically since my legs went on strike last year.

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