Living together whilst separated, how can it work?

[Thatbloodybear]

I've come to the realisation that DP and I are just not meant to be. After a lot of discussion he agrees, but due to a variety of reasons we'll probably need to live together for the next few months.

Has anyone got any tips? Luckily we've a spare room, and the kids will be none the wiser, but practically - do you make an agreement beforehand on "rules"? I'm sure neither of us are looking to date so that won't be an issue.
Any tips appreciated

Talk to your kids why DH is in another room and be honest with them why he is . I made this mistake and it caused my son to be a bit confused as to what as going on . Great it you can live in same house , but have a plan B if things escalate as mine massively did .
Good luck

Thanks Brain. How long did you manage to live together post split before it went horribly wrong if you don't mind me asking?

I think if you can both be respectful and not date people until you are properly separated, that would be great.

I am currently doing this. ExP was meant to move out before lockdown.
It is hard. We are managing quite well though all things considered and whilst he wouldn’t be my first choice to isolate with it is easier having each other around when it comes to working from home and looking after the kids.
We are currently just over 2 months post separation. He will be moving out once lockdown has been lifted.
If anything, this time has just confirmed I am making the right decision

We tried for almost two weeks then the eejit couldn’t help himself and went to a dating site , while we were still in same house .

No boundaries / so I had to say no / not here under my roof . I was so patient and talking about how we want to be able to sit a sand table when eventually kids get married etc , go to our mutual friends party etc, and then he did that .

When they cross that line - you rally have no other option? What next they do is let you be the baby sitter while they are sowing their seeds . Cake and eat it . No thanks

He got kicked out that day .

I had to do this for 6 months. It was hard and just got worse and we were amicable. I kept out of the way as much as possible, he didn't and carried on as usual so I spent a lot of time out or in my room, which meant I didn't see as much of the DCs.

In the end we got into a couple of shouting matches, which was unlike us, because the atmosphere was just awful and he was being a bit of a dick.

I did date and told him he was free to do the same. I had spent years unhappy and wasn't waiting anymore. Plus I found out that he had been hiding things from me for possibly years.