Arrangements where one parent works shifts (separated parents)

[Roobear23]

Hello looking for others in this situation-

I have always looked after my son full time and his dad has always spent time with him and recently this year started having him over night. Its been like this because he lives 4 hours away but in the next few months he will be moving locally. He has said today that he intends having him 2 nights a week.

He works 6 days on then 3 or 4 days off and each day is different hours so it can't be the same days each week he has our son to stay.

DS is starting school this September and we'll be moving house (all being well) and of course he's 4 so I'm keen for things to be as predictable as possible for him.

So just would appreciate hearing how others in similar situations manage this.

Thank you

Just make a big calendar and stick it on the fridge so he can see clearly in advance when he's going to be where. Kids are pretty adaptable as long as they know what's what

My ex is a train driver which is pretty much a 24/7 job so he does different shifts including nights and weekends.

We basically just plan in 2 months in advance and he has DS on his days off. There is no set pattern with us although it's usually one long weekend a month and then midweek overnights.

We've been doing it this way since we split when DS was 10 months old. I work office hours so it works for us.