University Students at Home

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Anybody else struggling with having their university students at home. My ds does not know if or when his exams will be, he says he has no work to do and therefore lolling about most of the time which is fine except if I ask him to do something. He forgets, leaves things for me to and basically treats me like the maid. I've had it out with him a couple of times but it doesn't seem to make any difference. Atmosphere at home is now quite frosty. I know I should try to be the bigger person but honestly I am working from home and quite exhausted. Please let me know it's not only me.

Dd1 has been back for almost 2 weeks. Her landlord offered not to charge April rent as the university closed and told everyone to leave) so it made sense for her to be here with no outgoings.
She’s had two weeks of online lectures etc and now has until the end of the month to submit her papers. Most of the exams have been replaced by research papers so she has plenty to do. She’s just getting on with it like everyone else.
Her gap year brother is now of course out of work and can’t travel, which is a bit harder. He spends most of the day in his man cave sleeping or doing things unknown online (D&D with his mates, magic) but will appear to scavenge food from 2pm - midnight.
Dd2 has a year left before she finishes school. Her grades this year will be her uni entry applications (different system) so she’s working hard - they are issuing a plan for each subject every week.
It’s really hard for everyone. And so much disappointment for this age group - dd1 was supposed to be volunteering in Switzerland for three months. Ds1 was supposed to travelling Europe with six friends. Dd2 had been selected for a month at a university campus for a program for gifted kids working towards STEM careers. All gone. They aren’t surly or emotional, but this stuff bites. None of them can now earn any money towards their study, which is going to impact all of them. It’s brutal for this age group. Hard enough for us, but so many ‘one-offs’ that teens and students plan have been cut off. So much disappointment.
Ours are eating dinner with us, and seem to be appreciating a bit of human contact and socializing for a few hours. Just meaningless chit chat, or watching something funny on tv and laughing together.
I feel like I have to cut them a bit of slack - the amount of anxiety they are dealing with is hard.

Everything is provided – everything is done. I don't ask him to do any cleaning. He does the food shopping which I am thankful for. Apart from that seems to treat the place like a hotel

Stop washing his keks and making him meals and cleaning up after him. Change the WiFi password and don't give it to him until he does his share of the chores.

Mine was back for about a week but the day before lockdown got a key-worker job back in his university city so ended up going back there.

Although it means we won't see him for God knows how long, and I do adore him, I have to admit I'm glad he isn't here. A week was more than enough