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Sister's abusive partner left

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formysister20 · 10/04/2020 10:05

Hi, I was wondering if anybody can advise me? My sister's partner, the 'father' of my nieces 6 and 11, upped and left them high and dry as lockdown happened. He has form for this, has never allowed her to work to gain financial independent and has controlled the finances the whole relationship.
Long story short her internet has been cut off, and with no aerial was the only form of TV for them all to watch. She does not get paid until 22nd of this month so is unable to pay it. There is still food in the cupboards at this moment but of course with everyone home it won't last long!
Shes utterly useless at managing her finances, the little she gets. She claims universal credit and has already exhausted any advances through that for now. Neither myself or mum are in a position this week to help her out financially and I don't know what to do, I don't know how to support her through this with this lockdown!
She was sexually abused as a child and her life is a train wreck right now as it is and I'm worried this is going to spiral out of control and she has the girls there.
One option would be to move her in with mum, but mum has COPD, mild but risky all the same as she may become really ill. Even stringent social distancing would be impossible and no guarantees they aren't already unknowingly carrying the virus.
I'm frontline NHS worker so don't want to risk infecting any more people than is absolutely necessary as it is, plus with an autistic child suffering through lack of routine, life at mine is damn stressful so couldn't move her in here.
I know the internet is not a necessity, but it's her only way of communicating with anybody and a way of entertaining the kids. Have spoke to the company who say until payment is made there is nothing they can do.
Can anybody suggest any help out there for her right now? The ex has already made it clear he is not going to help her and will be enjoying watching her drown 😡.
Also, if anyone can shed any light on the moving in with mum situation I'd be grateful as it would solve a lot of problems right now.
By this way, I'm no way am I asking anybody for financial help! Just a practical way out of this whilst we are in lockdown! Thank you 😊

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AntiSocialDistancer · 10/04/2020 10:11

Can she contact her local women's refuge? They may be able to direct her towards support to stay in her home. There are local volunteering organisations all over for food etc.

If she can remain in her residence for 2 weeks they should be clear of any possible virus and then can move in with her Mum?

ButterflyWitch · 10/04/2020 10:13

Can you not pay for her internet?

formysister20 · 10/04/2020 10:51

Hi, thanks for your replies. Unfortunately no I'm not in a position this week to be able to pay it due to all the additional costs I'm having myself otherwise I'd have done it in a heartbeat! It's more than just the internet really...she's so vulnerable due to her mental health and she's not just around the corner from me.
I didn't think about contacting a local refuge will certainly try that. Thank you

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