I've realised my dh is less interesting than I hoped.

[fartyface]

He always seems swamped with work and is also studying and has explained that that is why he doesn't have time for anything else.

But now... His exam is cancelled, he is wfh but all he is doing is working and studying. He hasn't ce up with anything interesting for the children to do, he is uninterested in household maintenance (the kitchen needs painting etc) he doesn't want to play his believed piano, he isn't interested in fitness or running, he doesn't want to watch telly with me or do soemthing else together in an evening, he doesn't maintain any friendships and only rings his family if I nudge him. He works and then wants the play a game on his computer. And that is it.

I always knew he was less go getting then me, but this lockdown is showing me that he is who he says he is. Ordinarily I have to pursuade him to do a day out, take kids for a meal, have friends round etc but his excuse is normally that he is busy, not that he doesn't want to.

He won't change will he?

Just a thought, is it like he's permanently checked out?

It could be he approaches work/study in an addictive way - then goes on to play a computer game, also addictive. Ie checking out.

Just a thought. It's not uncommon to do given half the chance even though it's essentially a soulless existence - but very tempting and easy to do.

What was he like when you met him/fell in love/wanted to marry him?

Springy yes there is something very autopilot about it all. Just bumbling along doing the same thing.

It is nice to have my feelings validated somewhat. I don't know what the answer is though. He is a good guy and a kind man, I'd certainly say introverted, but it is just tipping over into dull.