Ex just text me -

[CorinnaSinner]

Hi there.

At 19:45 and hadn’t been online since.

We have no children, live in other countries and the last time we spoke he said he didn’t care about me and blocked me.

I would not let him know I'd received that.

Bored and chancing his arm, ignore!!

Boredom drives us to many things. I am currently bored enough that I would probably have a chat with him if I were in your position. Can you be bothered talking to him, or would you prefer to just ignore?

Not proud to admit it but I may have sent similar messages this week....

He want to ‘reminisce’ about tour sex life cos he can’t go on any tinder dates. He’ll be asking for ‘photos to see what you look like now’ before you know it

Your not tour!

Well we were considering getting back together and (back when you could see who liked what) I’d seen he’d liked a woman’s photos on Instagram and then a lot of bizarre comments.

I said they were clearly dating. He said no I was crazy, all in my head and I don’t care about you and then block.

To satisfy my curiosity I looked at her Instagram about a month later and they were definitely together.

Was more annoyed that he couldn’t have just said that when confronted.

I think potentially ...

• Hes bored and they’ve now broken up
• Maybe he cares about what happening and how I might be (doubtful!)

I think I was also his safe option, the one he could treat like shit but loved him enough to always be there when his then relationship failed.

But damn the boredom in me is so curious now.

Ather than boredom it's about attention. He needs it like a leech needs blood.

He's probably a narcissist or similar.

Normal people don't fuck with peoples feelings ve cause they are bored. Nor do they 'crazy make' (accuse you of being nuts for perfectly reasonable assumptions).

Dont reply. Just block. Dont give him any headspace.

I'm sorry, you probably want to hear that somewhere deep down, he cares. But he just doesnt. That isnt your fault though. In fact you are probably pretty damn awesome because these sorts prefer...lights. people with soul, you know. All the more for them to drain.

Block and delete.

*rather than

He may have sent the same message to 10 women, to see who replies.

I've known a few men that do this.

I know he doesn’t care. I broke down on FaceTime to him when he asked me to fly to Chicago to see him ... and we planned it for a month and then he turned around and said he wasn’t sure if I should come or not. As he was still deciding.

He looked at me crying my heart out like he was watching a mundane tv show.

(I did get my own back and went to Miami with a friend instead )

But yes I would never get back with him ever. I realised when I saw he was in a relationship and I didn’t feel that sad feeling in your gut .. I knew then that I didn’t love him anymore.

DO NOT MESSAGE HIM BACK

DO NOT GIVE HIM THE SATISFACTION

DO NOT REPLY.

Been there. Chilling when you realise how empty they are that they just dont care your heart is breaking isnt it?

Those sort like to change plans at the last minute too. If you let them know you are looking forward to something, that's the first thing they'll plan to cancel at the last minute/ruin in some way.

You are well shot. Pat yourself on the back for knowing you deserve better and staying free.

Probably a really good time to block him and then you can move on with your life without him messing with your head any time he feels like it.

Do not message this twat. His message is a combination of boredom, chancing it for a bit of excitement, and maybe the mildest concern because of lockdown.

Don't bother replying, why not get online and fish for the replacement..