Anyone have younger DC who live with their Dad?

[WishIWasARunner]

Just that really, my 5 year old always wants to be at his Dad;s house and says he wants to live there. I'm starting to wonder whether I should allow it as much as it would be heartbreaking. He currently stays there 2 x week

All dc go through phases where they prefer 1 parent. Do not allow a 5 year old to make that type of life altering decision. Maybe increase visitation or go to 50/50?

Little kids always seem to prefer the parent that they see less!

I wonder how much is that it's a change and different. If hes anything like many separated fathers he'll spend the limited time making it fun / spending money / ignoring rules in a way you just can't do as the main parent. He'd never be able to keep it up in the same way for more days a week.

I remember one of mine saying similar at the same time. They saw him 4 days a month and he made those days really fun whilst at home of course I couldn't do that to same extent / afford it / had to work. They soon realised this as they grew up.

Ah that must be hard to hear but he's only 5...no doubt dad is always in fun mode if he only has him twice a week.

I'd just say "yes it's nice at daddy's ,you'll be there again on Friday". I wouldn't do anything in haste or that you'll regret just yet.

Yep I think there is that. He lets him eat far too much chocolate and crap and has other time to do house stuff when DS not there whereas I work full time and am always bloody busy. His Dad now has his new partner and daughter pretty much moved in and they play happy families, here its just me and DS :(
Its really quite a depressing feeling that he doesn't want to be here

I've been thinking about it for the last 6 months, he's getting worse about always wanting to be there. I pick up from school twice a week and when he sees me he gets all disssapointed and says oh noooo, its really embarassing!

When I was younger I used to like going to my dads (although I was a teenager). However, looking back it was because we got treats and undivided attention because I only saw him once in the week and every other weekend. My dad never had to any of the real parenting or looking after. We just got to do fun stuff. My mum was working full time and doing the vast majority of everything else too. Don’t make any hasty decisions and definitely don’t leave it up to a 5 year old to choose.

Your child’s dad is a Disney dad as he can do that on a couple of days a week. As hard as it is, do as a pp suggested and say he’ll see him in a couple of days. Please don’t take it personally as he doesn’t understand the impact of his words at that age.