Crap. I screamed at the kids then locked myself in the bathroom.

[Iwonder777]

It's the pressure I know but I still feel crap. They're 11+. Have been winding each other and me up, however I'm not usually a screamer and certainly I've never fled to cry in the bathroom.

Haven't seen them since.

Feeling a bit frazzled.

Aww, be kind to yourself. It was only a one off. We've all been there

Thank you, You lose perspective somewhat when locked in I think!

Take a deep breath and don't worry about it.
Maybe it'll shock them into behaving, but probably not

Well ,you know what ... life lesson for them. Other people have breaking points and they should be old enough to be told and notice when enough enough.

Everyone needs to lose their shot occasionally. You get taken for granted otherwise.

I'm in awe you've managed not to do it so far! I've had at least 3 screaming episodes and spend ages in bathroom calming down

Please don't worry, I lost it last night with my 7 year old DD. A combination of lockdown and pmt/tiredness and her refusing to have a bath tipped me over the edge. So many changes going on, worrying about wfh and constant mess everywhere!!

I shouted at her, felt awful, I did then apologise. My trigger points are bedtime (I am just totally knackered then) and when I'm trying to concentrate on wfh and there's mucking about going on.

My coping strategy at the moment is chocolate so heaven knows how big I will be if this carries on until September!!

I haven't got kids but am WFH and lost it with Sky's internet (or lack of it) today. Kept throwing us out, and when I rang Sky the message referred me back to the website or the app (neither of which I could get onto) or said it was a 1-2 hour wait on the phone. Lost it totally, screamed to no one in particular that they were all something unmentionable, and stomped off to the end of the garden and sat in the sun for a while.

Needless to say it is now working again....

I lost my shit again.

Honestly I shit you not.

I calmed myself down to what I thought was normal then back to their antics - boom.

I'm going to lock myself in the bathroom till, well I don't know when.

I'm scaring myself.

I thought I / we were doing ok as a family. Obviously not.

Don't beat yourself up. I ended up screaming at my son on his birthday the other day. His birthday! Crappest birthday ever (his 11th). No party, no friends, no fucking presents - beyond a couple of token home made - and his dad ends up screaming at him for something totally trivial. I'm surprised we got through nearly 3 weeks without it happening before but I felt like the most horrible person in the world.

We're good now but I still feel like a shit for having lost it.

Tell them they need to apologise to you for being twats behaving badly and then - and only then - you will apologise for losing it with them.

They are old enough to learn poor behaviour has consequences.

It's the lock down, please don't be hard on yourself. We don't have kids yet and have a wonderfully relationship but DP and I had a screaming row the other day over how I'd packed the spatulas (yes, moving house in the middle of a pandemic).

Tomorrow is a new day!

Go into survival mode tonight. Do the bare minimum to get everyone to the end of the day alive. Go to bed and close the door if you have to and if they're physically safe.

Then tomorrow morning address what happened.