My partner of 5 years is using dating sites and video chat rooms

[Mae1989]

I have been dating my partner for 5 years and we have a 18 month old. I am also 3 months pregnant with our second. Recently I found explicit photos on his phone and after doing some digging, I found he had downloaded multiple dating apps and uses explicit video chat rooms. I am completely devastated. I confronted him and he told me he was stupid and only done it for some excitement. I told him I found a betrayal and for me it's basically cheating. ( I found out in first pregnancy that he has cheated several times when we were in a long distance relationship for the first year of our relationship). This has really knocked my trust again. He stays up to the early morning and I know what he is up to. I took his phone this morning and found he has been using the apps again, but then deletes them, so if I use his phone I don't see them. We are in self isolation because of the coronavirus so I can't just leave. I feel so isolated and I have no where to go or anyone I can talk to....

Hi hun
Do whatever you need to do without thinking of him, is all about you and your kids.
Good luck 🤞
You are more stronger than you think

Yeah when this is over (isolation) he needs to be kicked to the curb.

Hun?

He has demonstrated he will not change and has no respect for you.

I’m sorry you are in this position.

Isolation won't last forever, start planning your escape route.

He's been cheating on you the whole time you've been together and he has no reason to change. I'm sorry for what you're going through but you and your children deserve better than this.

Only you can make the decision yourself - but whatever you do make sure it's in your best interest!
Children with separated parents are no different to children with both their parents under the same roof.
The egg doesn't chase the sperm! Remember that, so you shouldn't be doing any sort of chasing for him.
Hope you sort everything out x

I just don't know how to approach the conversation again. I have warned him that I would leave him. I don't want to break up our family because of a virtual thing but I feel like he has betrayed my trust and doesn't seem to care about the consequences. I think he believes I won't leave him. I can't just walk out because
Of quarantine, so if I confront him, it will lead to an argument and we just have to stay in the same house, I can't go and stay with anyone. Thanks for all the advice ladies

Its not you breaking up the family, his wandering cock is doing that.

Look what he's already done to you? He's playing you Mae, you're giving him too much power.

The egg doesn't chase the sperm. So don't do him no favours. Show him that your pissed off. Be laid back, make him do everything and if he asks why your not.., "I'm pregnant"

I am so sorry you are going through this and especially at this time.

If you don't have trust in a relationship, then you don't have a relationship. He has done it before and I am sorry to say but I think he will keep on doing it even if he says he won't, minimises it, promises to change etc.

Really sorry you are going through this. Big hugs. You deserve so much better. I know we are all in isolation but in these circumstances is it possible he could move in with some family (who are not vulnerable) while you sort this out?

I sent him a message telling him exactly how I felt and he has to stay in the spare room until isolation is ove. I couldn't face getting into argument or talking about the same issue again, especially not of our son. I have stayed out of his way all day. He is from Spain, so all of his family live there,so unfortunately he can't go and stay with anyone. I normally don't talk about my relationship with anyone so I don't want to burden my sister when she has enough to deal with. Thanks for the support ladies

*Infront of our son