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When this is over, who else isn't going to go rushing back out again?

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Thorilicious · 04/04/2020 08:13

I'm already thinking once this is all over, and I'm already concerned about everything peaking once again.
Everywhere will be so crowded, and busy, which is what we've been trying to avoid.
I'm planning on mostly staying in once restrictions have lifted.
I'm curious if anyone else feels the same way. I have anxiety, so am not sure if I'm being sensible, or if it's the anxiety talking....

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sociallydistained · 04/04/2020 11:14

Totally feel the same. I'll be scared to do so I think. I'll be focusing on visiting my Nan (when the time is right) and actually seeing my boyfriend at home and that's it until things slowly get back to normal.

wheresmymojo · 04/04/2020 11:15

When this wave is over it will just be a matter of time until the next wave IMO. The virus won't have gone...

So I will be taking serious precautions.

I'll see what the case numbers are and go from there but I won't be taking any big risks...I suspect I will keep to social distancing so may see friends sometimes but will keep 6 feet away.

I won't be going to anywhere crowded.

We're both unemployed now due to the pandemic so we won't have any money to go to the shops, eat out, etc anyway...

BearSoFair · 04/04/2020 11:17

I won't be rushing out right away. Over time, yes, but I won't be jumping on the tube or cramming into a gig on the first weekend!

wheresmymojo · 04/04/2020 11:19

Anyone who starts going out and about after this first wave and doesn't take precautions will quickly find themselves part of the second wave.

I'm in the vulnerable group (not the shielded group) and not liking my chances of just getting a mild version so I'll be very cautious until either a vaccine is available or a treatment is available.

LaneBoy · 04/04/2020 11:30

It will partly depend on the antibody test for us - I do think we have had it which has helped me relax a little but I’m still worried I’m wrong and we could still get dangerously ill. If I can know we have had it for sure then I’ll likely feel better about getting back to normal.

But I still don’t plan to rush quickly back to normal either way. The thought of life suddenly returning and a potential massive surge in cases (whether or not it affects us personally) is my biggest fear. I’m really anxious about when the rules are relaxed - will it be too soon, will it be too much at once?

I’m lucky to not need to rush back though - I was already unable to work, DS was already home educated. I am autistic and prefer a quiet life - having a lot of outside pressure taken off has been useful for me so far (early days I know) and really thought provoking.

My main concern is that DD1 can go back to school as soon as they’re open - she only had a term there after 5 years home ed, decided on turning 12 that she was ready to try again, and now this! She’s being very mature about it but is definitely suffering emotionally for it. DS is missing his clubs too.

Everything else can come back slowly. Although swimming is the main thing I miss for myself so I’d probably start that fairly quickly. I do wonder how quickly leisure centres will open, compared to things like restaurants, non essential shops etc. I just really hope it’s not all at once.

ChequerBoard · 04/04/2020 11:32

I'm with you OP. I worry about the relaxing of lockdown as what that will actually mean is a second, third and fourth wave of infections and death as the not talked about (but still government's only intent) herd immunity plan continues.

If you remember the herd immunity plan graph (which I can't find online now) it showed a series of peaks and troughs of infections as lockdown measures were introduced and relaxed, designed to smooth the demand on the NHS but still enable the majority of the country to be infected over time.

DH has an 'underlying condition'. He has been living with heart failure for the last 25 years. To be clear, he works full time and is an active member of society, just with vastly reduced heart function and reliant on daily meds. We are shielding him as much as possible, he is not expendable to me and the DC.

We don't want a swift end to lockdown. We want testing, tracking and tracing to be practiced as it should have been from the outset, sadly I fear this is now just not possible.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/apr/03/matt-hancock-government-policy-herd-immunity-community-surveillance-covid-19

amusedbush · 04/04/2020 11:34

I'm massively introverted so being on lockdown hasn't bothered me too much, although I miss having the option to go out if I want to. I like to be allowed to have plans, which I can then cancel to stay at home Grin

DH is a postman so he's still working, which is good for his mental health. He says himself that if he was cooped up like I am, he would be climbing the walls.

His work has a rota system of annual leave "blocks" and this year his is three weeks in May. We were supposed to be going on holiday, which is looking very unlikely to happen, but I hope the lockdown is at least lessened by then because three weeks locked in the house will really impact his mental health.

ChainsawBear · 04/04/2020 11:34

I'm fairly confident we've all had it, so as soon as I get my immunity passport I'll be out there like a shot and cherishing every second.

Chochito · 04/04/2020 11:40

I want to see my family, and close friends, and go running. I usually run at 06:20 and see no one bar a glimpse of a dogwalker far away. (Where I live we are not allowed out for exercise).

I am missing the gym a lot too.

Certainly no rush to go to things like concerts or football matches or to be in crowded shopping centres, etc.

I do wonder how I will feel about returning to "normal" social contact, however, such as busy supermarkets, restaurants, etc. and of course returning physically to work which is inevitably very crowded all the time (I work in a school).

MondeoFan · 04/04/2020 11:41

I'm looking forward to going back to work. I'm also looking forward to be a bit more free. As to rushing out - not straightaway as everywhere will be crowded

IvinghoeBeacon · 04/04/2020 11:42

I just want to see my mum. I will have a baby she won’t have met.

lunar1 · 04/04/2020 11:50

The country needs to reopen slowly and spread the second wave over a longer period of time otherwise we won't be much better off than this time. We might add a second wander round the park when restrictions are eased. My children won't be going back to school before September no matter what happens.

cologne4711 · 04/04/2020 12:07

I won't be rushing anywhere because I work from home anyway, I hope employers are sensible and don't immediately reopen offices and force everyone to come in.

The one thing I will do when restrictions are relaxed is drive to my local parkrun venue and run the course.

Makeitgoaway · 04/04/2020 12:12

I would expect it to be some sort of phased return to normality. It will be a disaster if everyone had an end of lockdown party/bbq/picnic at the same time.

I'm expecting schools will reopen and some will go back to work (not pubs etc) long before other normal movement is restored. I think it will be a long time before normal travel is allowed and wfh will continue to be encouraged where possible.

81Byerley · 04/04/2020 12:16

I will not be rushing out...

MillieMoodle · 04/04/2020 12:46

We won't be rushing out. I think we will be very cautious for a long time to come.

Legoandloldolls · 04/04/2020 12:55

No I wont to be returning to normal life. It's made me take stock of finances for a start so I'm going to be doing less non essential shopping.

I would meet up with my mate for coffee but I dont think I'd go to large restaurants and avoid crowds. I'm also worried about a second wave.im also concerned that I'm getting scared to leave the house. Im not sure how long mentally that will take to feel safe again doing "normal life"

Needtobepositive · 04/04/2020 13:04

I just want to go on holiday but no idea if that will happen this summer or not.

Devlesko · 04/04/2020 13:06

Not immediately, no.
Although I will see close family who don't live in our household anymore like Ds1, Ds2 and of course my granddaughter, who I miss terribly.

HaudMaDug · 04/04/2020 13:08

Its still hibernation season for me anyway.
Unless we are mid heatwave when this ends, I'll be quite happy staying by the fire for a bit longer.
I'd imagine by the time we come out of this we'll be on a hosepipe ban instead.

MUMALLMIGHTY · 04/04/2020 13:08

i dont mind the restrictions either tbh, infact id be lying if i said it hasnt been an advantage in certain aspects of my life! kinda dreading reality going back to as it were tbh.

Yogawoogie · 04/04/2020 13:11

Same as @BunnyandBee. ‘I am using it as an opportunity to reset and take stock of what we really need in our lives.’

I’m still working and appreciate that going out of the house each day is good for me but I am definitely using this time to reset. I’m recognising what is very important to me and what changes I can make.

Mammyloveswine · 04/04/2020 13:34

I fucking hate lockdown, I know why it is necessary but my mental health has taken a battering and I've been drinking too much.

So we've made a decision to stick to a routine through the week, I'm a teacher so I'm in on a rota basis and back in Monday which will help.

It's hard as I'm going through a difficult patch in my marriage too.

I can't wait to get out again, to run along the beach, take the kids swimming, go to the gym, go to the hairdressers...

I suspect it will be gradual ie you can meet up with your family members but I suspect the shops will remain as they are for at least another 3 months...

The worry is that things will start to get back to normal just in time for Christmas and the thought of a second wave over Christmas just breaks me.

RhymingRabbit3 · 04/04/2020 13:37

I will be rushing out to visit my parents and in laws, but I won't be going out to the beach/ theme parks/ national parks etc as I'm sure they'll be rammed

hannabarbera · 04/04/2020 13:50

Only place I’m rushing to is to my nail technician! Im currently soaking off my polish and builder. 🤨

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