Vent/whinge

[FuckingGregg]

Sorry, I know things are terrible, people are dying, we're all on lockdown, families are separated etc. It's shite and awful.

I just want a space to have a whinge that is unimportant in the scheme of things.

My wedding has been cancelled
My honeymoon is cancelled
Hen and stags ditto
Unclear whether insurance will cover it all
£££ we probably won't get back
One of my pets died today
I'm drinking too much = feel shit/anxious
Bin didn't get collected today and unclear if it will next week

And least important but holding onto by a thread to cheer me up...our lovely local Indian takeaway has now closed and will not be delivering for the foreseeable.

Yes, happy to be alive, lucky to have roof over my head/NHS/healthy etc, but FOR FUCK SAKE 2020.

Sorry, that's all. Ffs, this is total fucking bullshit.

Oh honey! (Don't shoot me for saying honey. I'm on your side).

That is spadeloads of shit. All I can say is perhaps, lay off yourself for drinking too much, and I hope you and DP can lean on each other, cry, laugh and drink together, because if you can, this too shall pass.

And I'm so sorry about your pet. You didn't need this right this minute.

Thank you so much for replying.

I feel like such a dick complaining, so many people are in such worse situations, including some of my good friends, losing jobs, working front line NHS etc.

I'm just gutted and feel like I need to get it out. I'm sure so many people are losing out on similar things right now. What a shit year.

I hope things start getting better soon.

It's okay to grieve what you're losing. It really, really, is shit.

You're aware of what other people are going through, and yes it's bad.

But this is happening to you. Your once in a lifetime (hopefully) wedding, that you've planned and prepped for, for years.

But from one whose been there, to a degree, what matters is the marriage, not the wedding. Cry, laugh, drink, and grieve together. And you will last. Your marriage will be tempered steel, that has weathered the fire.

You have every right to be upset. It was supposed to be one the biggest years of your life regardless of all the positives. Plenty of sympathy from me.

Today, all the sadness and frustration of this awful situation hit me from nowhere and I just sobbed my heart out. Ds saw me and he started crying them said “you never cry”. I can’t even say it was hormones...

Thank you guys. It's nice to just be able to say it and be acknowledged.

I have a good man and a home and my health. We'll be ok. We put the rings on today and just did a high five and had a beer. The wedding can wait.

@Milomonster Bless you. And your DS. I don't have children but I did a bit of an angry hysterical cry on my cat today, he looked a bit confused, then just fucked off out the cat flap like he was thinking wtf

It's totally crap. So sorry about your wedding.

My whinge list-

I've just started a lovely new job and now can't go to work.
Time of the month.
Had to cancel 2 holidays - one was an amazing surprise for the kids (too outing to say but based on their interest/ obsession).
I'm also drinking too much.
After all the rain and darkness of the winter we just want to go to the beach, have lunch in a cafe, play in an adventure playground.
I really really miss my parents and I'm so worried about my dad. He's 74.

I have a lot to be grateful for but waaaaah.

@Bluewavescrashing Bless you, it's shit. Cancelling holidays is gutting, it's what we spend all the year working to save up for.

And drinking isn't the answer, but it feels like an escape from the situation for a few hours doesn't it? I'm having my 5th or 6th final drink of the eve now then I'm going to call it quits and go to bed.

@FuckingGregg did your cat return ? Lovely that you marked your day with rings today.

I should have been in Tokyo today. Wahhhhh 😭. I’m about to watch Race Against the World on BBC with my hot chocolate - it’s a great escape from the daily shit for anyone who is into travel adventures.

@Milomonster Yeah he did but he's fucked off for a snooze on the spare bed, since I'm watching top of the pops 1989, don't blame him really.

I'm sorry you're not in Tokyo, what a bastard situation this all is. Will you get any money back? I hope you get to go in future, I've heard it's fab. Of our £4000 honeymoon it looks like we can get about £3000 back so it's not too bad I guess.

Where did you find 1989 TOTP?? I watched every episode religiously as a child.
I’ll lose 500 tops if bastard online travel agency refuses to refund canceled flights. I’m planning to take unpaid leave once this shitty situation is over and travel for 3 months. Deffo will go to Japan to see cherry blossom.

I've only had one drink tonight but that's because I've run out 😭😭😭

Just missed the pet bit- so sorry OP.

Milo - it was on tv at 8:30 tonight! Maybe itv4 or something?! It included Song for Whoever by Beautiful South.

Blue - oh thank you. It's a sad day. I've raised a drink to her.

It’s just fucking awful fuckshit.
You have every right to grieve over this shitfuck of a year.
I think youve Every right to have a rant and rage over what you’ve lost this year and be totally fucking angry
The drinking will be a attempt to force the anger down, but you know swallowed anger leads to depression..best to get it out..smash old pots against the garden wall, and just really Fucking let rip.
Don’t hold back
We’ve all lost something
Some more than most

1Loss of freedom is top of my list
2 Coming back from Tenerife a week early and losing money on the last week rental of our apartment
3Caravan site fees for a caravan we can’t go to
4 adowsing weekend in somerset where I was looking forward to connecting with friends all over the country
5 hotel for three nights for said weekend
6 holiday in Wales to see my cousin..so that’s another 6 nights in a hotel
7 a week at my friends house in dorset
8 tickets for a weekend Music festival
9 spending no quality time with children and grandchildren

All of this by end of May
I’m So sorry Op ..your wedding trumps my list..so please rage away

I'm sorry about all of that, Gregg, particularly about your pet. It's shit when we lose them.

Happy days will come again, just not for now. Hope that things improve for you and that your beer was cold. Warm beer would have put the tin lid on it...