I didn't know whether to put this in education, MH or wherever, so hopefully someone here might have the knowledge/experience I need.
We have deep concerns that college counselling is negatively affecting DD & is causing havoc at home as a result & effecting us all very badly, including DD. Initially we weren't sure of the cause as there are several layers of things going on, but we now know that DDs threats are based in fact, not just another stick to poke me we, which is her usual way.
I don't know what skill level such a job entails, or what is usual in terms of family etc, so I would be grateful if anyone can answer questions as we are currently in a very scary situation with DD.
Questions
Could a counsellor diagnose or, in this case dismiss an HFA diagnosis- as in not diagnosed, but very strong likelihood & definitely fits now I know more about HFA in girls. Lots of definite symptoms, but I n the past put down to other medical issues, both of which give her a much higher chance of being autistic. DD herself initially realised this was her, but we've been badly let down by CAHMs who refused to assess her & ignored re referrals by our GP. Counsellor has told DD she definitely isn't autistic.
Would a counsellor read out a letter to DD that we sent to the college by a parent, asking for contact due to our serious concerns about DDs mental health, plus NAS suggesting that non AS specific counselling could be detrimental & would that letter be seen as proof of my "controlling behaviour" - DD definitely knows about this letter & what's in it, though twists it to be different to the concerned parent letter that it is. No other way we can see that she could know about.
Would a counsellor (correctly) pick up on PTSD, but then tell DD that she has signs of classic parental abuse, so that is the cause, which DD now believes & is acting up on. - we asked for her counselling as we were concerned & she has been let down on MH support left right & centre. She's had some serious health issues, nasty accidents, bullying & awful treatment by doctors requiring a fight from me & leaving her seriously ill & bedbound much longer than necessary or on another occasion blaming stress & attention seeking for what turned out to be an intestinal blockage with colitis causing very severe pain & weeks in hospital without tests or treatment, so definitely PTSD, we've thought that for a long while, but definitely not abuse from me, though DD now misremembers events in favour of my being abusive.
Would they accept parental abuse, without ever investigating or even speaking to those parents & raise it as a safety issue for DD, giving her an option for support to leave home to a safe house - plus text support & contact during the lockdown as they feared she wasn't safe - after a big flare up last night on the back of my taking stuff back off DD due to her awful (& frankly abusive) behaviour towards me. DD told us she was moving out to a safe house & had texted her counsellor to let her know. We thought this was just a stick to poke us with, but it turned out to be true & we've seen the text, though nobody replied last night, DD still asleep, so no idea if she's has a reply today.
Thank you