Name changed for obvious reasons - pombears/spangran/Korean lady drinking tea etc etc.
I live in a house where we’re shielding someone extremely high risk of CV - that means our whole house is on lockdown, stopped the carers coming in/no cleaner - everything is on me (but my partner does his fair share of the things he can do). There’s been family arguments outside of the house with people wanting to visit ‘as they might die anyway so what’s the difference’/MIL trying to guilt us for not seeing her on Mother’s Day etc etc.
My partner has lost his job (AGAIN - still debt from last time and frivolous spending). Quite often I’m woken at 7 and don’t get to go to bed until past 1 (very rarely before midnight).
If you can imagine I’m like a swan, guiding at the top but peddling at the bottom. I must admit with most things (everything important) I’m doing well.
The only thing I’m not doing/in the mood for/last thing on my business schedule is doing the deed. Beforehand me and my partner probably dtd every other night but now we’re looking at once a week if that (and even that I could quite happily pass on).
My partner doesn’t understand because I’m stressed I just don’t want to do it. It’s became the elephant in the room - don’t get me wrong we’re spending quality time together: watching films/games/cooking together things that we never got to do before.
He’s feeling rejected and he is trying to be ‘romantic’ but I just really don’t want to do it.