Does anyone else impulsively interrupt what someone's saying with questions/commentary

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Does anyone else impulsively interrupt what someone's saying with questions/commentary?

I hate that I do it and I'm aware I do it, especially when the person I'm speaking to is very slow, waffling or telling me details that I don't find necessary (not in terms of about them e.g. how their weekend was lol but more, if I phoned the bank and they're going on a tangent rather than answering my specific question).

I always try and tell myself to wait until they've finished speaking but I when I force myself to do that, the topic has moved too far for me to make the relevant point/ask the question or I completely forget I had something to say.

I'm a very fast talker and thinker so most people seem very slow to me and I find it hard to control the rude impulse of interrupting, mainly for my fear of forgetting what I was going to say/ask!

How can I change?

Yes me, it really annoys me when I am doing it but I find it so hard to stop!

I did this (finishing people’s sentences etc) and still do occasionally but I have to work really hard on listening to what the person is saying

If it’s a work scenario I write down what I want to ask and then say something like ‘so you were saying x and I thought abc’

Not great advice but it’s working ok for me at the min

Yes, I have to try really hard not to. Dh is Italian and sometimes uhhmms a bit while he thinks of the word he needs and I have no patience for it so I fill in. I must drive him mad.

Yes. I’m aware that I do it, and try not to, but it’s so hard! Sometimes I do it because I’m really excited about what they’re saying and just want to agree madly. Sometimes it’s because my brain has reached the end of their sentence long before theirs has and I just want them to HURRY UP.

Yes, I try not to but some people go on and on and like the sound of their own voice.

If you’re continually bored by slow, circuitous waffle in people you talk to, so that you want to interrupt, you need to find more interesting conversationalists. Or stop asking bores how their weekend was, because then you will hear exactly what they bought in B and Q and how their neighbour parked in front of their gate.

Yes yes yes. I am consciously trying to stop and slow down in my thoughts and conversation. I get it from my mum. It’s a bit embarrassing when I’m constantly finishing people’s sentences for them but actually getting it wrong

Thanks everyone so far - good to know I’m not the only one who’s like this but tips from people who’ve improved would be very helpful too!

Yes I do it too. Think and talk faster than most people. If I know what someone is saying isn’t right like they haven’t understood me, i interject with corrections so they don’t waste their time carrying on. Hate that I do it but can’t abide slow conversations

I recognise this problem too. How are you lot when you’re the one talking? I tend to go into too detailed explanations, sometimes overshare, want to justify everything I say.

On the plus side, am very interested in other people and finding out about them!

And I write and read more quickly than most people too (but definitely not more legibly....)

Yes not with everyone but certain people I find myself doing it a lot. One particular friend tells quite rambling stories, often ones I have heard before. For example shes told me the story of her son's birth at least 6 times in great details - I'm sure I could tell you more about her birth story than her husband could and he was there! I just cant help myself interrupting when I sense she is starting to talk about it again!

I do this. It is the major bone of contention in my marriage. I don't mean to bit things just seem to pop out of my mouth ☹️

Yes, my dh does it. And then moans that I'm interrupting him - ruddy cheek.

I do this and I hate myself for it. Sometimes I’m just adding to the conversation though. But yeah. I recognise it.

My mum does it.. Usually finishing my sentence wrongly. I do pull her up every time and say no, that wasn't at all what I was saying. It makes me very aware of not doing it too as I am also quite quick thinking and can see to the end point (correctly) frequently.

I’ve learned over many years not to do it at work or with people I don’t know well. I’m still terrible with family and friends.

I have ADHD. Brain goes double quick, engages mouth before I can stop it.

Yes. I do this. I am quick and precise in the way I think and I am often at the conclusion before the speaker has finished thinking things through. I make sure I don't go into meetings or interviews where I am likely to be stimulated and excited, after having a coffee - caffeine makes this tendency worse. I still need to work on controlling it.