Do you get financial help from family?

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Not specifically because of the situation at the moment but on a long term basis?

A friend that I have met recently has told me that her house is on the grounds of her wealthy parents' property and they gave her and her DH the house. Her parents pay for all of their bills and private school fees for their 4 DC. They also pay for holidays for my friend, her DH and kids (the parents usually go too), as well as clothes and shoes for the DC. Oh and their car is paid for too!

Friend runs a small beauty business and her DH works full time, and she said that literally all of their wages are for them to spend on whatever they like.

I was just wondering really if anyone wants else gets help to this level from family? I've never had, nor expected, any financial help from my parents. I'm shocked that my friend gets this much help, although I think it's really nice that she does!

Blimey, that is a lot! Is it so that they get rid of some of their money before they die?

That’s surely exceptional!

I’ve had help with first car, uni fees, wedding and first house and a couple of random handouts that I think were related to being fair with siblings.

That’s all fairly standard in our group, together with the odd family holiday, childcare for grandkids if they’re local and treats to meals or presents.

So very lucky but we have a mortgage and car payments and state school.

My mother stopped buying me deodorant at 14. I’m extremely envious (though happy for) people who get any assistance from their family. If I had children and could help them then I would!

Nope.

OH and I never had help like that, although my mum helped with my uni fees. His sister though, has lived rent free, water/electric free since she left high school. She is married, with 4 children and still with their father!!! PIL put her into a small flat and paid for everything for years, she then moved back into the family home when the flat got too small for her growing brood. PIL paid nursery fees, bought them both cars, took them ALL to Disney land USA, Disney France and multiple other holidays. Paid for their £20,000+ wedding too. We were given a nominal cheque amount and asked NOT to cash is, as they were ALL going on holiday again.

We get nothing because we 'have enough money apparently'!!! OH and I work very hard and have good jobs, but far from well off. The disparity and unbelievable, and certainly hasn't made the sister stand on her own feet.

Nope I dont. Although my dad has told me if I need any financial help during this crisis just to ask. Hopefully il be okay.

there aren't that many parents who can fully support their grown children and pay the school fees of 4 grandchildren. Top 0,something %?

Nope nothing! And very very little help since left home at 18.

Haven’t had any help. Don’t need it though. Not all boomers are rich

I had first car, 9k deposit on first property (because parents were divorced and mother and step didn’t want me and father got a job in the US). I was 21. Never another penny until father died when I was 40.

Our DC have a very small property each wrapped up in Trust and have been given 2nd hand cars and a bloody good education. Both have always embraced paid work. DS has worked during what are now three gap years and starting a phd in the autumn. DD had a constructive gap year learning a language and working. Worked in hols last summer.

Wouldn’t surprise me if both became academics. A luxury their father didn’t have and I wouldn’t have wanted.

A work colleague has a similar set-up in that his in-laws pay for the house, holidays and private school fees. The problem is there are a LOT of strings attached. Colleague absolutely detests his FIL but he doesn't want his children to have to come out of private school so he's constantly biting his tongue, he's very bitter about it all.

Not on a regular basis like that but my mum has given us a lot of money over the past few years to buy a house, get an extension, new car etc. She also has money saved for DD for school fees if we decide to go that route. But not day to day spending, although if we got into difficulty I'm sure she would. Her view though is that she'd rather give me as much of my inheritance as possible while I'm young enough to need it and enjoy it, as now is the time we benefit from a bigger house, flexibility with my work to look after DD, etc. I'm also an only child and DD is an only too, so that helps.

No and i would be embarassed to be in that situation. I would much rather be a fully fledged grown up and taking care of my bills myself. If my parents were really rich a house deposit or a few cash gifts for holidays etc would be lovely but living in their pockets woudn't suit me at all.

Lucky those people I guess but like another poster, I stopped having things bought for me since I was 14!

Nope, nothing. They’ve lent me a few grand over the years (around £5k) which I’ve had to pay back but no lump sums / bills / holidays / cars / deposits etc.

My parents gave me £1000 deposit when I bought my first property and I was very grateful for that. Everything else like driving lessons, cars etc I paid for myself. I thought that was normal when you were an adult.

No help from wealthy parents but I received an inheritance from grandparents and aunt/uncle who were very wealthy. Dp had about £1500 deposit for first house. Neither of us expect to inherit

No, not since I was 18. I don't need their money, DH and tick along ok on our own. They worked for it and I want them to enjoy every penny.

Not a sausage from my family since the day I turned 16. I do get regular texts asking me for money though from my mother.

In-laws are generous. We are mortgage free at 30 thanks to his family and dhs investments when he was younger. I also get random cash gifts and get told to have a day out with the children etc.

I'd scrimped and saved from 16 so it's a very different lifestyle for me but I appreciate it greatly. There's never any strings attached and to look at us you'd never know.

Nobody in real life knows we are mortgage free or have additional property and that's just how I like it.

Inherited from both sets of grandparents but no other help since a loan 20 years ago for half the deposit on our first house.

My dad is always offering as I'm a single parent but I've got a decent job and don't really need it. It's reassuring to know there's a safety net though.

No. My dm bought me a set of saucepans and a cookbook when I left home for university.
25 years later, I inherited some money when she sadly died.

We don’t get routine help from our families, but both my parents and DHs parents have helped us a lot over the years (money to furnish our first house, money towards our wedding, pram for DD, etc). We never ask for or expect any money from them but it’s helped us out massively over the years.

I think your friend is in an unusual situation, but if I was in a position to I would probably want to do the same for my DD as her parents are doing for her.

I think that's an exceptional circumstance. We don't routinely get financial help from our parents but since having ds, both my parents and inlaws have gotten into the bad habit of giving dh and I money every few months.
It's nice that they do it, and they've made it very clear its gifted and they don't expect anything. But we don't need it, so we've started putting it in a money box and have agreed it's our birthday and Christmas fund to buy everyone's gifts.

I worked FT from the age of 16. My DM has not supported me financially in anyway since that point. DH's family gave us 5K for our wedding 15 years ago . They have also loaned us some money to finish our house which we are paying back relatively quickly. They buy the odd bits and pieces for the kids and sometimes treat us to a takeaway. We are very grateful to them.
My dsis and her husband have had thousands given to them. Her dh's mother died when he was young. All her family money went to his aunt who is now elderly with no children. She has given them 100k in cash and 4 small flats which are rented out. My dsis is also very close to my aunt who has also gifted her many things over the years - car, holidays, a piece of jewellery worth 25k, I pads for all her kids etc. I don't begrudge her the money at all; dbil lost his mother and my dsis really looks after my aunt. What I do begrudge is her lack of awareness. They have a good but expensive lifestyle. In her eyes it's because her dh works so hard. She doesnt seem to realise that both dh and I also work really hard and actually earn more money than them but because we haven't had the same handouts they have we have no hope of the same luxuries as them.

Yes, I get a monthly allowance from my parents who would rather they helped us all now than when they are no longer here. I work full time and am a lone parent.