We’ve been isolating a week longer than some others due to our son being symptomatic. All a little bit stressful trying to work from home, I’m writing my dissertation, 3 kids etc etc same as others.
On Mother’s Day, DH text his mum at about 11 to wish her happy Mother’s Day, with the intention to face time later on with the grandkids etc. We’ve done this before but it wasn’t mentioned in the text, and him and his mum have a funny relationship at times, a bit... tense.
Anyway, she replied back at 2 saying she was very hurt she didn’t even get a phone call, on her special day. He immediately tried to face time her, she ignored, then he tried again an hour later, she ignored. 8 o’clock comes round, his dad calls, f’ing and blinding on the phone that he’s a selfish prick and thanks very much because now he (his dad) has to bear the brunt of your bloody mother. DH put the phone down, messaged them both, apologised to his mum, told his dad he was happy to discuss but don’t swear and insult etc.
When the proper lock down happened, DH reached out and asked if they were both ok, hopefully keeping entertained with the allotment, looking forward to having a day out to reunite when it’s all over - no reply. He messaged again yesterday, hoping they’d had a good weekend, were they getting everything from the shop they needed etc - no reply.
Today his mum has messaged me saying she is very down and struggling with the fact she got no call on her only special day. I tried to discuss gently the fact that no it wasn’t ideal that he hasn’t rang straight away but he had apologised and we are all very preoccupied with the current climate - no response.
The thing is, this isn’t the first time it’s happened - DH is an only child, crap at communicating and setting stuff up and normally i facilitate it for an easy life but obviously with my dissertation I just don’t have the head space. And this would never happen in my family! My mum would have answered the phone, I would have apologised profusely for forgetting, she’d have said never mind, we’re talking now. There is no way this would be continued on, to this extent, in a PANDEMIC. Jeez, I’m just so frustrated!! And his dad only sticks his oar in when it negatively affects him, not because his mums feelings have been hurt.
Sorry that was long, I just don’t know how to handle it so it all Disappears as quickly as possible!