First of all I know I shouldn’t have snooped, but hear me out.
Me and DP have been together 8 years, have a 18 month old DS. We broke up just after DS was born because he sat me down and told me that when I was around 30 weeks pregnant he started talking to a girl he met of Facebook and when DS was 6 weeks old he met her and had a day out drinking etc. Obviously I ended it then and there. It was one of the most awful times of my life, I was suddenly alone with a small baby and my confidence was at an all time low. He went back to live a his mums and came over every other day to see DS for a few hours.
Towards DS first birthday (September 2019) he started telling me he regretted everything and felt overwhelmed and he’s so so sorry etc
I hated him but I also wanted our family to be together for DS sake. I know a few people who have made it work again after affairs.
So we started being friendly again and started back up again in October2019.
I don’t know why but I started getting paranoid again at the start of the year and put it down to being cheated on before.
This morning he went food shopping and left his phone behind. I know it was a total invasion of privacy but I couldn’t help myself.
I found a messages from a woman from December. Turns out they have met a few time’s, “smoked weed” (lovely isn’t it) back at hers a few times, been for drinks together, been bowling, been to the cinema.
He’s back shortly but I don’t know what to do, I feel distraught and there’s absolutely no coming back from this. No more.
I feel like a fool and I can’t stop crying and I want him gone but obviously now with isolation it’s a little more difficult. I don’t even know how to confront him or explain why I’m upset because I’ll have to admit I snooped.
He hasn’t messaged this woman in a month but that’s only because she’s gone away on a 5 month placement as a hostess on a cruise ship so he can’t physically see her.
Please help me:-(