Why is my boyfriend a dickhead towards me?

[leoadam171]

Hey, I would like some advice. I have been in a relationship for over 3 years now we have two beautiful kids one who’s 2 coming up to 3 and a 1 year old. It was all abit of a rush at the start of our relationship but I wouldn’t change that. My problem now is that I am feeling very lonely and mistreated and don’t know what to do. Past couple of months when I try to initiate a conversation with him he either ignores me or gets annoyed with me. I will ask him to help me around the house and he will make an excuse to not help, he is constantly on his phone talking to his lads that he barely ever puts it down to spend time with us, I am exhausted. when he does speak to me he is either telling me what to do or just speaks about his work, am I wrong for wanting more, he doesn’t get close with me no more. If we have alone time which is not very often at all, he will end up having a little to much to drink and end up being a dickhead to me. fed up just need some advice, he acts so positive and everything when we go on FaceTime to his family or when around people but is miserable when it’s just around me. What am I doing wrong? Sorry for this long rant, just really needed to get it out x

I wonder why you would imagine it's something you are doing wrong as that's not a healthy way of thinking. Just leave. It's not you, it's him.

It’s not you, it’s him. Have you any close family or friends you can talk to about this!

I spent 13 years with someone like that. You’re probably not ready to leave him or you would have done it by now. I’m telling you though that your life will never get better until you leave him. Unless you leave him, he will eventually meet someone who actually commands his respect and he’ll leave you, and in the meantime he’ll treat you like crap and you’ll feel like crap when he breaks up with you. There is the possibility of you actually being happy in life. It won’t be with him. The quicker you break up with him, or he with you, the quicker you have a chance of being happy. You have a higher chance of avoiding unhappiness and torment if you break up with him and take control. We’re here either way op, let us know what happens

Put the children to bed and sit down to a nice dinner together. Ban mobile phones for the night and TALK. It sounds like you are nagging each other and exhausted. Tell him what you need from him and ask him what changes you need to make. Sometimes you just both need to try a bit harder.