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3 Month Lockdown

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Trying2611 · 29/03/2020 13:12

I know it hasn’t happened yet, might not, but there is whispers of this lasting 3 months minimum, do you think you will be able to this for 3 months!! The thought of it is bringing tears to my eyes not being able to see family and friends for 3 months! I’m sorry if this sounds selfish I know we are doing it for the greater good it just sounds like a long time what are everyone’s opinions?

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CormoranStrike · 29/03/2020 13:14

Yes I think it will happen and yes, we can do it as we have no choice.

blackberrysoup · 29/03/2020 13:15

I think it will happen, yes. What choice do we have?
Maybe the good point is that it will make us aware of what life is like for people who have this experience every single day.

MajesticWhine · 29/03/2020 13:15

Yes it will be difficult. I feel I can settle into it, but older teenagers are already struggling.
And DH is very restless already with his exercise addiction. Fortunately we have exercise equipment in the house.
I think it's best to think about it one or two days at a time. Thinking too far ahead is pointless and anxiety provoking.

Hannsmum · 29/03/2020 13:15

Im with you on this. My mental health not taking this too well.

Im a parent with two kids ( OH) works abroad and not knowing how i can cope and handle this myself, and also be there for the kids is driving me nuts...

Dont think i can last a month doing this

BlackandGold · 29/03/2020 13:18

Well the higher risk people have already had messages telling them to self isolate for 12 weeks so I would imagine it's a distinct possibility.

HelenaHyena · 29/03/2020 13:22

I will be living in less than 20 Square metres with a 4 year old. :(

NotOneToShoutOut · 29/03/2020 13:23

I'm high risk so have already got my head around it. Strangely, in hopefully 3 months or so, I will be out of the high risk group anyway.

I'm fortunate that I've been facetiming with family and friends and only have one older son at home with me.

Neither of us have stepped foot outside of the front door for 13 days now.

wanderings · 29/03/2020 13:31

Mark my words, if it does go on longer than that, there is likely to be civil unrest, especially if the death figures go down, but restrictions are not eased, and there's no end in sight.

mencken · 29/03/2020 13:32

better than never seeing them again because you or they died a horrible death in a hospital that couldn't cope.

it is varying degrees of awful for everyone, there's no sugarcoating that. But if we want a functioning society at the end then it has to be done.

and I hope the 'civil unrest' lot get treated as they would in other countries. We will know it is working when the figures start to go down, that does not mean it will be instantly ok to leave lockdown.

SkaLaLand · 29/03/2020 13:37

It's not a nice feeling no, but needs must and I am taking it one day at a time. I am lucky in one sense in that I am a keyworker (not healthcare) and I am still able to be out of the house day to day once this first quarantine is over with anyway (DC displayed symptoms).

Quarantine is hard on a family as my DC cannot get out the house for the once per day exercise. They are doing a lot of bouncing on the bed to burn off some energy.

I am hoping the weather gets warmer again soon as then they will tolerate being out in the garden for longer periods.

It's tough, but needs must.

fluffysocksgoodbookwine · 29/03/2020 13:39

Don't think about it. Focus on a manageable period of time, be that a week, a day, an hour, and focus on that. The future will be there when we get there, no good will come of anticipating it
.
I say this as a GP who's managed to have anxiety most of the weekend thinking about what the next 3 weeks are going to be like at work. DH is an anaesthetist, so we're both at high risk of exposure. We are also trying to keep DS amused, learning, and in contact with his friends.

Just focus on today for now. Think about what you can do to be kind to yourself and others at home, turn off the news/ social media, do what you can to distract yourself (read a book, try something creative, put some music on). Do some exercise. Get showered and dressed (if you haven't already). Phone a friend for a chat. Watch the rain (or snow in my case!) falling outside the window, and breathe.

We can all get through this, a day at a time. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other until we get there.

salemcat · 29/03/2020 13:41

Needs must, but I am seriously worried about my DCs MH tbh.

Sexnotgender · 29/03/2020 13:43

Yes I’ll be able to do it. I (a) don’t fancy dying (b) don’t want my super vulnerable teenager getting it as she probably wouldn’t survive it or (c) being responsible for someone else’s loved one dying through my selfish actions.

Pishposhpashy · 29/03/2020 13:44

3 months I can do but much longer than that and i and many like me probably will not be around to see the end of it.

Userwhatevernumber · 29/03/2020 13:48

My sister is a part-time keyworker, with a DH with mental health difficulties and a very lively, wonderful but very challenging 5 year old who is in the process of an ASD assessment. She normally is supported by me, and her parents, neither of whom she can see at the moment. Her DH’s family all live abroad. My sister is already feeling the strain one week in.

This time is necessary and for the greater good yes, but seriously, anyone who has the ‘needs must so we must just get on with it’ attitude without any empathy is cruel.

It’s very very difficult, will be very hard to this for 3 months and honestly, if we get to the point where my sister is really not coping down the line, yes, I will consider breaking the social distancing rules to go and support her and her family. I will weigh up the risks of braking the rules with the long term impacts of letting her mental health suffer, and the impacts for my nephew of having two parents who are mentally struggling.

crazydiamond222 · 29/03/2020 13:49

I don't think there will be a full lock down for 3 months. 3 weeks in Italy and there is already civil unrest. I think we will have around 6 weeks full lockdown and then some loosening to allow a bit more economic activity as will will be over the fiest peak then. There will then be another lockdown later in the year. I would be surprised if schools restarted before september though.

Chiyo666 · 29/03/2020 13:53

Funnily enough, this lockdown is a really doing wonders for my MH. Either that or I’m diving I to another manic episode

VideographybyLouBloom · 29/03/2020 13:55

Three months has been my estimate the whole time and even after that we will have to ‘social
distance’ for possibly another couple of months. I think September for the schools to go back.

HelenaHyena · 29/03/2020 13:55

and I hope the 'civil unrest' lot get treated as they would in other countries.

Meaning?

WhateverHappenedToBathPearls · 29/03/2020 13:59

I'm higher risk so I've already made my peace with a 12 week spell. They need to find a way to make food deliveries etc work for more people though or there will eventually be riots.

BuzzingButterfly · 29/03/2020 14:08

People will stop caring about the greater good long before then.

GabsAlot · 29/03/2020 14:17

User you wont be breaking anything if there is complete lockdown you wont be able to

LastTrainEast · 29/03/2020 14:25

OP can you not use skype etc to feel closer? When not connected to friends find webcams of wide open spaces and so on.

Neverenoughcoffee · 29/03/2020 14:39

There are no guarantees that having not seen our family and friends, they'll all be with us at the end of this. Some could have died with us never seeing them again.

MaJoady · 29/03/2020 14:45

Tbh, I wonder whether for some people at least, the first few weeks will be hardest. Atm we are all just settling into a new routine, which makes everyone, including kids more restless and feel uncertain.

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