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Two miscarriages in a row

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Cathysaf · 28/03/2020 16:33

I know it's normal to feel upset and frustrated after having two miscarriages in a row but I thought maybe if I wrote about it might help.. our first daughter we had through IVF which took a long time I'm nearly 4 years. And when she got just past 2. We thought we would try for another one ended up getting pregnant but miscarried after 2 months it's which was amazing for us as we didn't think we could have children naturally so we tried to look at on the positives.! Then straight after that I had a cancer scare had to have a few biopsies done which took months unfortunately as they weren't sure to send it to a specialist to go took a while back anyway with no problems. Then it took us 3 months to get pregnant again and this time only last week we found out first scan 3 months scan there was no heartbeat quite a bad miscarriage ended up having to go to A&E is kept collapsing losing a lot of blood. Only a week ago this happened and now with this virus thing which has got so bad it feels like not a good time to try for another one I just feel like I'm not the only one and I won't be the last one to struggle to get pregnant and have miscarriages but I feel these things are taking so long and it hasn't left us a lot of time as I am 38 now I can't help but feeling like upset I don't have a lot of time and feel very emotional about it all I know I shouldn't feel alone life is hard and could things could be a lot worse !! And I have my beautiful. Daughter is absolutely perfect and healthy which I know I'm very lucky to have the healthy perfect child at some people don't have the same luck ! and that my cancer scare was fine in the end. But I feel so frustrated and upset it no never the less everywhere Around Me all my friends and family are already on this second baby just feels like babies popping up everywhere. Not that have anything against people having babies it's just so frustrating when you struggle for so long as something so hard to let it go ! at it was we still hope he may have another one. ???? I guess I just wish it was straightforward as it seems to be for a lot of people.

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Brookeinabook · 28/03/2020 17:17

Sorry for your losses Flowers
You've had a tough time. The miscarriage association can offer support. I had two in a row before dd1 and it's very difficult. I think there's a section on MN too might be worth a look.

GrannyWeatherwaxsBroomstick · 28/03/2020 18:42

So sorry for your loss 💐
But I’m a child born after my Mum had three miscarriages in a row.

PumpkinParent · 28/03/2020 18:51

I too am sorry that you have had to walk this miserable, sad path. We had to wait a number of years before I fell the first time, then had a miscarriage before our first child, and then two in a row before our second child. Looking back on it, it did make a difference with the second and third losses that we did not grieve with empty arms but we still felt a profound sadness and sense of powerlessness. I was your age when we had our first, older - obviously - when our second came along. I have no particular wisdom but send love for I know just how hard this situation can be.

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