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Seperated from my children coronaviras

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Flissm38 · 26/03/2020 19:57

Please do not judge. My toddler is on lockdown with his foster parents due to the coronaviras. I've been told I can't have face to face contact for a month due to the pandemic. I usually see my son 3 times a week at a contact centre but obviously it's now closed. Is anybody else seperated from their children? Or has been for many weeks? I'm losing my mind not seeing my baby 😥

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chardonayforme · 26/03/2020 20:04

Sadly a lot of people are separated from their children. It's safety just incase. I am sorry your child is in foster placement and I hope you see him as soon as this all calms down. How old is he? Can you FaceTime him?

Jpm148 · 26/03/2020 20:43

My ex and myself have agreed that i wont be having face to face contact with our 9 year old daughter whilst this lock down is on. We know Micheal Gove announced visitations can continue, but in our case we have decided it's not worth the risk. She's safe where she and we have video & messager contact whenever daughter wants to chat, so she does not stress. We have both explained things to her and have stressed it's not forever and we will get through this. She is happy with this and is taking great pride in showing me what home schooling she has been doing each day.
Normally the ex & i dont see eye to eye, but in this unprecedented pandemic, we are working together for the benefit of our daughter and are putting her needs and safety first.
It is hard and i know everyones situation is different, but we are lucky in this day and age to have the techknowledgy to stay in contact.
Stay strong and may this awful situation pass 💕

Tinyhumansurvivalist · 26/03/2020 20:54

Exdp and I both work in Key sector, dd is switching between us for childcare but is highly vulnerable and am awaiting the inevitable letter from her consultant... At which point we have discussed and agreed that as her primary residence is with me I will take the hit and lockdown with her for up to 12 weeks.

We have agreed to daily video chatting... He will use his hour a day to come and stand at the garden gate to see her when he is off work, they will write, draw pics play games over video chat...

Contact your social worker if you aren't able to contact the Foster family, ask for your contact time to be digital so you maintain the contact at a similar level.

Good luck!

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Flissm38 · 26/03/2020 21:57

Thankyou for your words of reassurance. My little girl is 9 and with her dad, I get to facetime her every time which is a lifesaver.💕
My little boy is 18 months and on lockdown in foster care. Earlier this week the social worker met up with me so I could facetime him which was ok but so hard as hes so young and can't talk. Now I've been told I probably won't have facetime anymore as I cant have the FC phone number and having the social worker here is putting her at risk. I get this is an unusual situation but no one is trying to figure a way around this. The thought of not seeing my baby boy for weeks is terrifying. I don't know how to carry on like this, I've not seen him face to face for 2 weeks, I might not see him for months 😰

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SomeoneElseEntirelyNow · 26/03/2020 22:24

Why arent you allowed the foster parent's number? Unless youre a safety risk that seems pretty unreasonable, but tbh i can see why it wouldnt be possible for the SW to visit- if they did that for your son they'd have to do it for everyone and that would 100% defeat the point of a lockdown. Im sorry, it sucks.

Babymamamama · 26/03/2020 22:30

Your social work team should be arranging for you to have video contact in a way that you are not party to your foster carers number. Hope that helps.

whiplashy · 26/03/2020 23:23

surely there’s a way around the phone number thing? Using an app or something

BillysMyBunny · 26/03/2020 23:28

I can see why you cannot have her number to FaceTime but maybe you could ask if you could use an app like Skype or Zoom which would require the foster career to make an account but not to give out numbers.

On Zoom it would be easy to have a group video call with the social worker also present (with her video and sound easily switched off) if necessary and the social worker could set up video meetings and email to all parties without you needing to have any details for the social worker. That would seem a definite route to explore if the social worker is willing to.

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