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Come on Mummies of 1 to 18 month olds... what is your trick for staying sane??

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ImfinallyaMummy · 24/03/2020 19:47

It's the mornings that go on forever!! From 6am to 1pm (nap time) it's just non stop. Being shut indoors all day everyday and I've run out of ideas how to entertain my very active 15 month old!!

He's not interested in his toys, we do bubbles, peekaboo etc but I'm in desperate need of other ideas.

Anything will do otherwise I'll be soon buying wine and cracking it open before lunch 😂😬

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JohnLapsleyParlabane · 24/03/2020 19:50

Do you have stairs? My 1yo could go up and down stairs for days and not get bored

ImfinallyaMummy · 24/03/2020 19:52

Yes we do but he's not interested in them. Dry interested in the bin, the under stairs cupboard which is full of electrics, interested in the washing machine & dishwasher. Everything he shouldn't be 🙄

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ImfinallyaMummy · 24/03/2020 19:52

Very not dry!

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BendingSpoons · 24/03/2020 19:57

My 13 month old likes posting things so I give him various containers like boxes, cups and small items like blocks to put in and out. We are lucky enough to have a garden so spend time out there playing with soil, stones etc and having a bath after. A bath is the best way for us to get 30 mins peace! (Obviously I supervise but can sit and MN)

ImfinallyaMummy · 24/03/2020 20:00

Ds demands my constant attention, even when he's in the bath! He refuses to sit down unless I get in with him 😳

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BendingSpoons · 24/03/2020 20:03

I have to admit I let DS play with the washing machine, putting the plastic thing for the liquid in the drum! DS also likes the cutlery container from the dishwasher and some plastic cutlery to go in and out.

In terms of toys he has a push along toy which he likes running around with.

Kungfupanda67 · 24/03/2020 20:12

My daughter is 16 months and a good way to stop her being whingy and a bit irritating is to get a box of things (anything that you don’t mind him playing with, make up brushes, clothes, dvds, coasters, empty bottles or toilet roll tubes), make yourself look very busy with it for a few minutes but don’t try and involve her and then go and make a cup of tea. The vast majority of the time the curiosity of getting something she might not be allowed to play with is enough to stop her following me lol

VillageFete · 24/03/2020 20:28

Needed this thread. Struggling BIG TIME. DS just turned 12 months and it’s a bitch of an age for this quarantine business. All he has done is whinge today. It’s doesn’t help that I’m trying to homeschool DD (who is no bloody help in entertaining her baby brother. More interested in Tick Tock and Facetiming her mates)

Tiddlytubbies · 24/03/2020 20:35

Following with a huge amount of interest! I have a 15 month old, he has been soooooo whingy today! Do you think they pick up on our anxiety/know something is up? It's only day 1 of quarantine for us as I had to work yesterday. My son loves water play at nursery so I will probably get the washing up bowl out with a little water and some toys on the kitchen floor tomorrow. Might not work for everyone but I keep him busy in the house in the morning and go out for a walk in the afternoon after lunch/nap it seems to make the day a bit easier doing the majority of the hard work in the morning!

Tiddlytubbies · 24/03/2020 20:37

Also if we are staying in all day during his nap I completely change all the toys he has out so he has something different to play with and is more interested in the toys!

ps1991 · 24/03/2020 20:47

My DS is 14 months old. Our day goes like this:

6:30am(ish) wake up, dressed, ‘read’ a few books while getting dressed
7:00am make breakfast, usually porridge, I sit him on the side once I have all the bits out so he can help/eat uncooked oats 🙄 then he eats the porridge
7:30-11:00 play
11am go for a walk during which time he will fall to sleep
1:30ish wake up and have lunch
2-4 play
4-4:45 ish have dinner
5pm ready for bed
6pm bottle of milk, story and bed

He will have a few snacks in there too, usually a cracker atm!

We have been eating our lunch while he naps and we all eat dinner together. Luckily my husband and I are both currently wfh so have each other to help.

We also only have one big toy out per day (activity table, trike that makes lots of noise, little tykes garden) and rotate so they’re more interesting. I’ve made a shelf just for him on the book shelf that I put a few toys each day and his books. He will spend a long time taking the books off the shelf and flicking through them. We also have a big drawer full of tuppaware that he loves to empty and refill. Emptying the dishwasher is a fun activity, especially if it’s tuppaware 🤦🏻‍♀️ He will also take washing from the washer and put it in the drier. He only does one item at a time, but we’ve got all the time in the world atm Grin. We have also ordered him a swing set for the garden!

I agree with a pp every time we need to go upstairs or downstairs we let him do it on his own so he gets better.

And I’ve been doing the Joe Wicks PE class at 9am which he squats along to :D

chocodrops · 24/03/2020 21:13

I thought I would go insane having to be back with 15monDD again alllllll day, and try and work 😨 but it's not been so bad.

I read a bit about Montessori and decided to set out just a handful of her toys on a shelf she can reach and put the rest out of sight. Cleared everything else away. I was amazed, first thing next day she played with one thing for like 15min+, after showing her what to do she was completely independent! Was bliss.

Also, clearing up takes approx 30sec, she's much calmer and more focused. Recommend Guide and Grow for some tips 👍👍👍

BertieBotts · 25/03/2020 08:58

What you need is toys, or not even really toys, but items that let them explore the laws of physics, that's what they are fascinated by at this age IME. So things which can go in and out of containers (and lots of different sized containers). Balls which can roll. Things with wheels. Tubes and slopes to put things down. Stuff like stacking rings, stacking cups, shape sorters, wooden blocks, duplo. Things that open and close. Things that only go together one way but are fairly simple, like those wooden jigsaw puzzles with the handles. With more difficult toys you will have to do it with them a few times until they get the hang of it. A few basic role play toys are helpful as well or safe items they can use to replicate everyday life. Pretending to make phone calls, "fix" things with a screwdriver, stir food in a saucepan, drink coffee like Mummy - all great fun and really sweet to watch.

Also, at this age they are starting to develop preferences towards things. For example DS2 loves tractors, cars and farm animals. He has a little friend who is obsessed with dogs. So if you know what their favourite thing is, you can look specifically for books, toys, pictures etc that incorporate those things and leave them out for them.

Rotating toys is definitely a good idea. I also find for some reason just moving the location of them makes them interesting, so I swap some between the living room and his bedroom, or take some onto our balcony and suddenly they are like brand new toys.

I let mine have free rein of all board books but avoid anything pop-up or lift-the-flap, so that the books he has access to are pretty much indestructable. Don't be precious about the books getting damaged - they're supposed to be interacted with and IME they get chewed and thrown about before they start to use them to look at the pictures and then "fake read", but they will do both of these things in time if you regularly read books to them so they know how they work. They do need a bit of help to recognise which direction the spine goes and will try to close books the wrong way a lot. It's not on purpose and if you encourage them to ask for help (I did this by teaching a sign) they generally will before they break the book. If the spine does break, tape it. Admittedly this is easier for me to cope with as I get most of his books second hand paying very little and plenty of them are in battered condition already. But they really can take a LOT of rough play before they become unreadable.

It's tricky when second hand sales are essentially impossible at the moment, but you can still buy simple toys and books at the supermarket, or online, if you have the money to do so. Colouring (scribbling on things) also starts to be interesting at this age. Print out some colouring sheets with easily recognisable items on them (google "free colouring page farm") or whatever keyword you like, or buy a cheap supermarket colouring book. There are various child friendly colour options from chunky pencils/crayons to washable pens. Look online (beware cheap foreign imports which might contain harmful chemicals, stick to known brands - RoseArt, Crayola, Staedetler etc)

Snacks which consist of tiny pieces that they have to pick up one by one are long lasting and an activity at this age. Cheerios, rice crispies/other cereal, sweetcorn, sultanas, raisins, dried cranberries, pretzels broken up into pieces, freeze dried fruit like bananas/strawberries/raspberries (can often find in baby snack aisle) all work well.

They love to feel that they are "helping" or being like Mummy/Daddy at this age so adapting any household tasks so that they can "help" is brilliant in about 3 different ways - you get stuff done - they are learning that housework is a collaborative effort - you are entertaining them and keeping them out of trouble - it fills up loads of time. Plus because you've "done something" with them, you can have a guilt free coffee break after that. Good ones for them to "help" with IME are washing up of plastic/wooden, unbreakable items, wiping floors/tables/windows with a cloth, warm water and some mild soap, putting washing into the machine, taking wet washing out of the machine, hanging stuff up onto lower bars of an airer. (Yeah, they scrunch it up and leave it there, but you can fix it, also try showing them how to shake the creases out first!) Tidying up toys into a box, carrying things to another room (especially if they have a toy pram/cart/trolley to use, or lightweight box to push along the floor!) If they start to do the opposite of what you want, just gently show them and explain in simple terms "I want these clothes to stay on the line so they get dry! Can you get me another one from the basket?" - obviously they don't understand everything but they tend to be eager to please at this age, plus if you're treating it as an activity to do with them rather than a job you have to get done, you'll feel less annoyed about this and it can be really funny to see what things they think are helpful and how they mimic you.

You are allowed out for "exercise" - just following a toddler around seeing where they want to go and what they want to investigate is great fun. Ditch the buggy (it just gets in the way), bring reins or a back carrier if you feel the need to contain them at times, or carry them to a safe place to start, or drive to a safe place like a wooded area. Avoid parks - too many surfaces other people have touched, and they can't access the play equipment yet anyway, but an open field, canal/stream, not-busy beach, quiet street or woodland is great. Obviously they have no concept of social distancing but you can steer them or hold them back while people pass you.

Janet Lansbury's advice about how to help toddlers learn to play independently is also helpful, this is a good starting point to her approach :) www.janetlansbury.com/2013/05/stop-entertaining-your-toddler-in-3-steps-2/

chocodrops · 26/03/2020 20:54

Lots of great advice above PP.

We've just had a shit day though 😔 Lots of boundary setting & tears. DD just wanted to eat everything in the garden but not her breakfast, lunch, dinner or snacks. She knows where our chopping board clamped to a chest of drawers office is now so cries outside till she's let's in. I don't think she's coping with tag team parenting 🙁

And DH is now facing a 20% pay cut - proposed today as voluntary but unlikely to remain so. By no means the worst situation compared to many right now & I know we're really lucky in lots of ways but still just really rubbish 😶

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