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Support thread for people with difficulties self isolating

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Binglebong · 24/03/2020 19:14

For a multitude of reason there are people who will find self isolating very difficult. It isn't a case of saying "these are the rules: stick to them". In many cases it is not possible.

This thread is for them. I'm putting it in chat because the Corona thread is as vicious as AIBU and that helps no one. The is a thread for mental and practical support, it may be that suggestions will not work and I hope anyone replying to this thread will respect a poster enough to acknowledge that their situation is always more complex than is written here and if they say something won't work then accept it.

It may be that people need to rant. If that is the case than accept that too. People's mental health is important too and if it helps then it should be applauded.

I hate the report button but I will use it if there is unkindness. It is not necessary. One of the the things this awful crisis has done is reveal the power of community. It is wonderful. So please, let us display it now.

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Becca19962014 · 24/03/2020 19:47

I'm someone struggling with self isolating for many reasons. Finding support for that is really hard, some people need to go out most days for food and sometimes daily medication collection. Now on top of the fear I already had I've terror of police to add to it. I'm barely coping. I've spent most of today in bed. So must get food and meds tomorrow and deal with police and pharmacy staff in masks which are triggering for my PTSD.

I run out of prescriptions later this week and dint know how I'll get to the GP. No one to help and taxi firms are closing. I'm very rural (no deliveries for food or meds here) and our gp practices are very far apart now due ro closures.

God knows if I'll get any food or even meds. We had hundreds of tourists descend this weekend and wipe us out of food and meds. Caravan parks were full and people have been told to leave and go home. Looking online I see hotels etc are still taking bookings for "isolation". I despair.

Honestly I wouldn't go out if I had a choice but the fact is I don't.

Binglebong · 24/03/2020 19:59

I'm so sorry Becca. Would your gp be willing to do a phone appointment and send the prescription electronically?

It sounds awful about your PTSD. I wish I had a suggestion but I'm coming up empty.

Any hotels AirBnBs etc still advertising should be shut down. So irresponsible. Angry

Cake
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Becca19962014 · 24/03/2020 20:37

My phone doesn't accept with held numbers and the GP surgery won't allow then to show. Also I live in Wales, there are no electronic prescriptions here and I need to be seen. I've lost my social worker indefinitely as mental health team has closed down and I'm really struggling with my mental health - I'm frightened to even see my GP.

Yes they should but again government too early to act, we've less of them than caravan parks but even so it encourages the stupid to come here, and I've heard there are people parking in mobile homes in rural areas as well.

Binglebong · 24/03/2020 22:00

Shit. I'm sorry. Xxx

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Binglebong · 24/03/2020 22:01

Cake Nearly forgot!

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Becca19962014 · 24/03/2020 22:42

Don't be sorry. You were trying to help.

springydaff · 24/03/2020 22:56

FlowersFlowers Becca

Becca19962014 · 24/03/2020 23:04

Thanks.

I am trying, just finding it really really hard.

springydaff · 24/03/2020 23:17

❤️

Binglebong · 25/03/2020 00:31

For your own sake try but please don't think you have to hide from anyone here x

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Binglebong · 25/03/2020 00:32

That came out wrong, I hope you know what I mean.Cake

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Pantsomime · 25/03/2020 00:37

Hi does your local community have an online keep in touch CoVid response that you can add your name to to get prescriptions collected, food purchased for you?

DeeCeeCherry · 25/03/2020 00:41

Becca would you feel able to phone your GP surgery, explain your situation and see if they can give you a time to call your GP back?
Can you phone 111?

So sorry to hear you're having a difficult time of it.

Nice post by the way OP. Corona threads are too harsh and judgmental in the main I find, so many people must find them triggering. I've hidden the topic, thankfully. In these times especially that kind of non-community spirit is jarring to say the least.

Deathraystare · 25/03/2020 07:25

God knows if I'll get any food or even meds. We had hundreds of tourists descend this weekend and wipe us out of food and meds. Caravan parks were full and people have been told to leave and go home. Looking online I see hotels etc are still taking bookings for "isolation". I despair.

That is total madness. The complete selfishness of some people!

I was saying to a colleague that I bet this self isolation would be mentally hard on a lot of people. Not just the elderly.

Binglebong · 25/03/2020 08:36

Thank you Cherry.

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HairyDogsOfThigh · 25/03/2020 08:53

Becca, i live in rural wales and the local town and rural communities have created covid 19 volunteer groups to help with shopping/collecting meds. Have you seen anything like this near you? We did leaflet drops last week and the fb group is very active. Do you have fb, can you see if something like this is set up near you? If you personally don't have fb, do you have a friend who does? Once you have the local phone number of your volunteer group, you won't need to use fb, ours recognised that a lot of our elderly vulnerable aren't on line.

HairyDogsOfThigh · 25/03/2020 08:55

Becca, with your meds/doctor situation, can you phone your local pharmacist and explain the problem. They may be able to help in some way?

HairyDogsOfThigh · 25/03/2020 08:57

I've just reread my previous post, i am not suggesting you are elderly, just that our local system is set up to not need fb etc,

Becca19962014 · 25/03/2020 10:33

Thanks.

I think I need to clarify a couple of things.

Firstly the police have set up a road block at the end of my road indefinitely to stop people going into town for food/meds. For me this is terrifying. I'm afriad of police. I've a family member who was a victim of a DS assaulting her for decades and then being abused by the officers in that force; Drs and police I do not trust at all. I've tried to go out already today and got nowhere as I'm so scared. The road block is to stop people coming in and accessing the nearby beach, because yes, yesterday that's what people were doing. It's 20c here, hence people going there I guess.

Secondly, my GP can't ring me as their number is with held. My phone won't allow with held numbers to call me so leaving a message is no use.

Thirdly, no one else can get my meds. I must speak to the pharmacist. Assuming I can function enough to do so, with them now wearing masks and aprons its a big trigger for my PTSD and if I'm in that state I cannot cope with anything and just "run" (as much as a person can on sticks! More like walking to everyone else!).

Fourthly, the groups. There is one set up. However, the woman who spits in my face is running it. This has been reported to the police but because she's ill and can't help it nothing can be done. Last summer she was working as a support worker because though she does this to me it wasn't on her DBS as it was caused by her illness. The man who assulted me is also one of their volunteers - so far he hasn't worked out where I live, but that could change, again he is ill so I've been told to put up with it.

In no way am I saying everyone volunteering in these groups has an alterior motive but in the case of this man he is known as a predator of vulnerable women on their own to the police and women's aid to the extent that when i spoke to them they didn't need his address or anything at all. All that happens is he is put in hospital where he assaults another vulnerable woman. The woman who spits at me bullies anyone who tries to stand up for me.

One of these groups, not where I am, has already been closed as it was a scam and people lost a lot of money paying for help.

16 weeks is a long time to be trapped in seeing no one else and people are desperate if they are on their own and others are taking advantage.

My mental health is already badly breaking down anyway, I simply won't be able to stay in for 16 weeks at least without seeing anyone or speaking to anyone but voices. I'm already having landlord issues due to reacting so much to voices.

Becca19962014 · 25/03/2020 10:36

A quick look in booking.com shows bookings for hotels etc are still being taken.

No wonder there are police road blocks.

Ffs.

Becca19962014 · 25/03/2020 10:37

For town read village - I hardly live in a town!!

SuperMeerkat · 25/03/2020 10:48

My mum’s been finding it really hard. I, my sister and my son have been calling her at least once a day each as she lives alone. I felt really bad saying we couldn’t come over yesterday and my sister won’t see her for at least three months as she got one of the dreaded government texts on Monday 🤦‍♀️

Mlou32 · 25/03/2020 10:50

I'm really struggling. Really struggling. But it has to be as simple as 'stick to the rules'. People will die if we don't.

Perhaps this thread can be enough of a support line to enable people to stay in their homes and get the support they need here.

Becca19962014 · 25/03/2020 11:03

The point is some of us cannot do so. Are you not able to comprehend that? I've had abuse all over for not having anyone to help me and I'm sick of it. My FB is this morning full of people hurling abuse at me. This thread is for people who gave no choice. Not who just want to flout the rules.

Go be self righteous somewhere else.

And yes I will die if I get it as I cannot be ventilated. I've already been made to feel guilty for "killing others" as well elsewhere and I'm sick of it especially on MN.

I live in a HMO even if I was able to still afford care (can't government stopped my money) or had deliveries my neighbours must still work and share my facilities. Inbetween being abusive to me for being mentally as well as physically ill.

Where was all this self righteousness at the weekend when everyone cleared out my village? No one gave a damn about anyone here then.

Becca19962014 · 25/03/2020 13:13

That was a nightmare. I'm sick of this shit.
I've been practising safe distancing and essential going out for weeks due to my condition, now I'm getting abuse for being outside.
Sad

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