Jealous of exes wife?

[Ishihtzuknot]

Is it normal to feel like this at seeing my ex happy with his family 12 years after we split?
I never imagined he’d pop into my head again. We had a really happy relationship for 5 years but he broke my heart by cheating on me with his neighbour. He was actually very nasty about it so I know now I had a lucky escape. They are now married with 4 children. They named their first baby the name I’d wanted us to use and their honeymoon was also the same place we’d spoken about. It felt like a huge slap in the face when I found out.
I know I should forget and move on but it’s playing on my mind a lot today after I saw his sister (we both work in the same hospital) I ended up looking at his social media. It’s just made me feel emotional and sad. I could have had what his wife has but I never got the chance, with him or anyone else. May be unreasonable of me but my life hasn’t worked out at all how I’d liked so it feels like someone’s playing pranks on me.
Does any one else get this feeling with their ex? I don’t feel like this about any other exes confusingly.

I think it is normal to feel disappointed. I dont have any feelings towards any of my exes, but I remember one of them... I invited him to come with me to my home country, he could have stayed with my family or elsehwere if he wished, I thought he would enjoy it. He never really show any interest at all, complained that there were no direct flights,, he didn't want to fly and then take a train or a coach, so I thought OK, fine. We were together for three years and he never really visited during summer (I was going away for 2 months at a time).
Then after we broke up he got in with a girl from the same country. She funnily enough lived in a town close to mine. He visited within the first months of them being together!
I found it funny more than anything.
I think you need to focus more on your happiness and what you need to do. It would be a shame to waste time on someone who was so cruel and thought so little of you at the end of the day. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to think too much of it.

It's the comparison I think : he was the one who was a shit yet he's had the happy ending, while you're struggling. Not fair! ❤️💐

I can totally understand. The child's name and honeymoon must have felt awful to you - sounds cliche but one day you'll find the happiness you deserve. I've seen tons of examples where a couple split and the one who was the horrible one gets a happy relationship etc. whilst the other is alone but after a few years, the horrible one ends up getting divorced, etc. and the one that was alone ends up having waited for the right person and gets their happily ever after.

I've been where you've been so I can empathise.

The honeymoon and name copying is really hurtful but I doubt it's anything more than a lack of imagination on his part = you liked honeymoon/name idea therefore safe bet a lot of women will like honeymoon/name idea therefore suggests to new woman who ends up liking honeymoon/name idea

Op, you will get your happily ever after. Mark my words

Thanks everyone you’ve cheered me up
I feel better today, I don’t think I‘d survive lockdown with a man around me

I'm glad you're feeling a little more cheery OP. I have a lot of exes as I'm old. My first husband had an affair and called his child by the OW the same name as our stillborn child. That really stung.
More recently I've watched STBexH spend Valentines Day in our 'special place' and change my name on the family holiday to hers.
Social media makes it very hard to put the past behind you but you need to keep reminding yourself they are exes for a reason and look forward rather than backwards.
Oh and I'd kill him if he were around me now on lockdown; I do hope he's getting on her nerves.

Sorry to hear it happened to you to and sorry about your darling baby
When you think about exes I guess you realise how different your life could have been if you went down that path Vs. a path with a different ex for example so it makes it quite bittersweet. I’ve blocked his account so I’m not tempted to look again.

Bravo op! 💐

I felt a bit weird, bereft, on ex's wedding day with subsequent silly wife. She could have him as far as I was concerned, with bells on!

But I wondered how she looked, if she was more beautiful than me in her /our respective weddings days.

Silly, really - he SO wasnt worth all the pain! It was a feeling of being... replaced? That's a primal thing. It's not about him or her. It's about feeling cherished and treasured. We all want and need that.

Onwards and upwards. He's a douche and she's got the booby prize. Don't forget that.