Parents in their 70s

[RosieProbert]

I am in such a quandary. I don't know whether to get my parents to come and live with me.
Both have underlying health issues and my dad is also prone to being really down. I'm worried about them falling or something at home and no help available. I live literally a 2 min drive from a large hospital. I can walk there it's that close.
I just don't know what to do.
They live about 15 mins away.
I'm currently in self isolation until friday, as are my children and DH.
I'm a teacher and I don't have to go in to school at all. DH is wfh for the forseeable.
Wwyd?

Leave them where they are and if necessary drop food off to them. Set up FaceTime or equivalent. Take them books.

I'm so worried about them being ill / falling and no help coming.
I know I'm not the only 1 who feels this way.
Love to everyone.

If they get it they are going to die.
So bringing them to you may kill them as you'll be going out into wider society and will contaminate them.
I'm wrestling with this every day. I don't want them to die alone. If I can save them by not seeing them until there's a vaccine then that seems to be the thing to do. But as they point out - is that a life?
There'll be no point them going to hospital to be hooked up on a ventilator and then die. I'd definitely bring them to mine then until the end.

It doesn't have to be one or the other. My parents are in their late 80s, my brother drops off food and waves through the window, we speak to them on the phone every day.
Is it likely that your parents would both fall at the same time and both be unable to reach a phone to call for help?

It's so depressing isn't it. My mum was almost in tears on the phone telling me where they keep their wills if they both die.

I've decided that for now they are safer staying put. If things get really bad, and my kids dont show any symptoms as we've all been in for 10 days now and counting, I'll get them up here.
They decided to self isolate a week ago now anyway just in case. If they stay where they are, they're safe from the virus for now.
Thanks all

How are you all coping with the guilt and the worry?

Why do you feel guilty? You didn't unleash this virus on the world.

tbh my parents are making it easy for me to cope without guilt

they are being very matter of fact and adult about it; seem to see it as their job to reassure everybody in difficult times

we chat cheerfully about this and that

compared to my mother in law who was paralysed from the waist downwards for the last 7 years or so of her life and still kept her spirits up, I don't think their having to stay in their house for maybe a few months is such a terrible restriction on their quality of life: they have their books and jigsaw puzzles and plenty of food

as there are two of them, I see no reason to fear that they couldn't get help in an emergency; my dad's memory is failing a bit but he is not so out of it that he wouldn't notice if my mum had a bad fall and though he is too deaf to use a telephone socially he would be able to call emergency services