Anyone else's wedding been called off? Come have a self indulgent whinge

[goolish]

Due to recent events, my wedding is off and in the grand scheme of things I get it, it's minor. And I feel like I can't moan about it because people are dying and that's actually important.

But I need a whinge, someone else must be in the same boat? No judgement please.. I am not belittling everything else. I'm terrified and upset by what's happening in the world. It's still shit though!

Yep. It was 8 weeks away. We cancelled (but feel that we had no choice) and we stand to lose a fortune as the venue don’t agree that we can’t go ahead and are saying we’ve cancelled.

I really feel for you. This is all so shit. Nobody is even staying inside...

Mines in 8 weeks. I think we'll be postponing it tomorrow. The venue and photographer are happy to move the deposits, not sure on cars and other services as yet.

We'd held off hoping for positive news but it's just terrible isn't it. I feel like a huge selfish knobhead saying it, but I'm gutted.

I'm so sorry for both of you too. When are you planning off rescheduling it? I'm not sure whether to just move it to next May.

Mines in July. I'm refusing to think about it until May. We've only paid out deposits so far, and the reg office fee. It probably will be cancelled.

I'm freaking out more about my honeymoon tbh. If need be I'm fine with popping into the reg office with no guests. I just so desperately want my honeymoon.

Not mine but close family. Was meant to be in the summer so they've cancelled and rescheduled the shindig for next year instead and got married quietly themselves last week. They're very disappointed but happy to just be married.

That is not self indulgent! That absolutely bloody sucks! I'm so sorry for you guys.

I feel horrendous for everyone who has to cancel their wedding. The amount of time and effort that goes in to it.

That is really crap. Are you still going to get married even though the extra bits can't go ahead?

Also, where were you having the reception? Surely it's closed now due to government advice.

Not my wedding but we have booked to go away for my 30th birthday in a few weeks so that won't be happening. My 18th and 21st birthdays were shite so I was really looking forward to this.

I've also been doing my MSc part time around my full time job, it has been gruelling and now it looks like graduation will be postponed indefinitely.

I absolutely get that these are small blips in the grand scheme of things and I'm faring much better than many during this horrible time, but I'm disappointed. I'm keeping my whinging to myself in real life.

That’s not self indulgent, I feel dreadfully sorry for anybody in your position Wishing you a wonderful wedding when it happens.

That’s rotten luck op sympathy

I've had my bday and Mother's Day like the rest of the world this weekend and I'm in my own pity party. Pathetic in the scheme of things so yes. Feel for you. X

Ours is 11 weeks, venue won't answer the 'cab we postpone' question and are saying they will only cancel if forced to. Wedding insurance won't pay out for anything to do with govt act, so we are looking at being about £20k down. But it's just money (albeit all our savings). If me and everyone I care about get through this I'll make peace with it, and we'll just go to a registry office. Am so gutted though, we have been planning for 18 months

*can

amusedbush, re graduation - mine got cancelled in 2011 Canterbury NZ quakes. I still have my wee moments about that. Okay, not so wee. You work so bloody hard, and sometimes just planning that celebration of achievement is all that gets you through.

Everyone? It's okay to be sad, to be angry, to grieve, and to mourn.

Aroha nui. Kia kaha.

(Much love). (Be Strong).

Me 9th May. Weddings been postponed a whole year. I'd been trying to convince the venue all week to let us postpone but they kept say business as usual. They finally called. 48 days to go then shot up to 412 feels silly whinging in the grand scheme if things. Diets gone out the window too.

Can't understand how venues are allowed to continue with weddings at her moment as bars and restaurants have been forced to close. It's shameful that people are effectively forced to proceed putting not only their loved ones at risk, but also their staff.

Postponed my Handfasting which was going to be on 2nd May, and my sons 21st birthday party which was going to be next week.

Mine is was in May too. Us, and 30 of our nearest and dearest in the Caribbean. Two weeks together with all of our family and closest friends. We've been counting down for two years. It's totally and utterly shit. I remember every morning pretty much as soon as I wake up and my stomach just sinks.

@mbosnz

Thank you ❤️

I feel really bratty but I’m less than six weeks from the finish line, I’m so proud of the work I’ve put in, and my beautiful graduation dress is hanging in my wardrobe. Blargh.

Work colleague was meant to get married yesterday and it was cancelled ☹️
Feel so sad for them, and all of you others whose plans are changing.
You will certainly have a story to tell your grandchildren!

Of course you can "moan" or talk about the difficult and disappointing things in your life.

It sounds gutting. You're allowed to be upset about it and to say how upset you are.

Are wedding venues letting you get married without all the add ons, just you and the witnesses? I'd do that rather than cancel.

I was to a virtual/live-streamed wedding yesterday. Very pared down and very moving. All but household celebrations post-poned to the Autumn.

for everyone. I lost my uncle last weekend, no funeral. DW and I are 60 this year, no big joint birthday.

However, when the dust has settled...SINGLE MALT FRENZY

Of course you have to right to be disappointed. You can be sad for all those who die, and all those who lose loved ones, and still have space to be sad for your wedding (which is not remotely trivial!) and lots of other less monumental things.

My wedding anniversary and my DH-s and both my DD's birthdays are in April. I feel like we're missing out on what should be a lovely month. We're all safe and well, as are our families, but I'm still a bit sad.