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To keep ds with me?

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hotstepper4 · 17/03/2020 23:14

I have a ds9. My exh and I split custody 40/60 to him.

Ds developed a dry cough on Sunday. Exh has sent him into school on Monday and today without me knowing, as they are his days. Since he's been with me he has coughed a lot, his temp is 37.0.

Exh discussed what we'd do if the schools closed, deciding that we'd each keep ds one week at a time, swapping every Wednesday.

I told exh that I will not be sending ds to school, and I will keep him until next Wednesday as previously agreed, then he can have him the week after.

As usual, exh is going mad, demanding I send ds to school as he's adamant that because he doesn't have a raging temperature, that it cannot be coronavirus. He's demanding I bring ds back to his tomorrow evening as usual, then our usual agreement would be he has Thursday and I have Friday to Sunday.

AIBU by telling him to stick it and he'll get ds on Wednesday? I hesitate because he's the type of person who, when he feels wronged, will try to destroy me using ds. I worry he'll keep him for weeks out of spite when I send him back on Wednesday.

What should I do?

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Mintjulia · 17/03/2020 23:39

The school part is easier- call them and ask what they would prefer, then tell your ex you are following their advice.

As far as visits are concerned, do you have an access order? Or is it privately agreed between you?
Under those circumstances I’d tell him no and lock the door but only you know just how irresponsible he is.

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