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How to tell kids about mental health

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Talktokids · 14/03/2020 10:08

NC for this...

About 20 years ago, I struggled very badly with mental health issues, addiction, suicidal thoughts and the like. This resulted in me being sectioned and receiving inpatient treatment for a number of months.

At the time, I was single, had no children and no mortgage, so I was able to focus on myself and go where I needed to at a moments notice.

I got through it, changed jobs, got married and have two fantastic kids (now 7 and 12).

Over the past year, life has started to get the better of me and for my own wellbeing, I’ve arranged for more inpatient treatment next week. My partner is aware of my struggles and is supporting me seeking treatment, but I’ve done a fantastic job of hiding everything from the kids.

Now the inpatient treatment is looming, I need to tell them I’m going away for a month, but I don’t know how.

I want to minimise their upset and concern, but still be relatively honest with them.

Does anyone have any thoughts on wording I could use? So as not to drip feed, my partner has fairly recently finished treatment for cancer (this was difficult for us all, but fingers crossed all will be ok) and my eldest struggles with theirs and other people’s emotions.

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unicornsarereal72 · 14/03/2020 14:45

I have recently had to have similar conversation with the children. I explained that sometimes life can be over whelming and people struggle to do day to day things. And need to pause and take some time out to rest and get some energy back again.

Hope you all have good support around you and be kind to yourself x

aibutohavethisusername · 14/03/2020 20:52

Tell them Mum isn’t well and has to go to hospital where the Drs will help her get better.

KatyN · 14/03/2020 21:39

My son witnessed me having a breakdown with prenatal depression. We talked a lot about mummy being poorly and getting the help she needed.
Some of the help was drugs and some talking.

He was only 4, so the conversations were much less deep.
Good luck.

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aibutohavethisusername · 14/03/2020 21:42

Just to add my DD was 7 and then 10 when I was sectioned.

Talktokids · 15/03/2020 13:44

Thanks all for the advice. I spoke to them over lunch - there were tears and snotters on my side, the kids took it in their stride...

I need to absorb some of the resilience they have!

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