My 5 month olds lack of eye contact is worrying me

[Bpr187]

I was wondering if anyone could please give me their experience with eye contact.

I have a 23 week old son and he gives eye contact when I am holding him in the breastfeeding position of giving him a bottle, if he is in his rocker, on the change table, etc. mainly while lying on his back. However, he will not give me eye contact when I am holding him sitting on my lap facing me. He will look to the left or right and if I put my face in front of his he will look the other way as if to dodge me.

From your experience, is this what they mean when they say lack of eye contact? Does it mean that they try to avoid eye contact in all positions or can it be only in one position and still qualify? Has anyone ever experienced this? He also will watch anyone and everyone when they are moving around the room. He is also able to track objects without any problems. He does have a slight turn in one of his eyes so I’m wondering if this could also be causing him problems but as he’s tracking fine then I’m assuming his eyesight is ok.

For those of you with experience with autism what else would be red flags at this age besides just the eye contact?

Has anyone's child been quite poor with eye contact as an infant and not turned out to be diagnosed on the spectrum?

Thanks so much for your help in advance! I really appreciate your input.

@Coleycokes yes that does, thank you so much.

when you say your son’s speech is 6 months behind. In what way? My daughter had delayed speech so I’m wondering if it’s the same thing?

My DS has got better at eye contact when feeding but it is still a concern to me. My son was also born in December

Hi @Belle82

Sorry I missed your first message. So my son is 2 now and he is still delayed and he is on the pathway for diagnosis of autism. He’s making progress just in his own time. I don’t want to worry you at all, I know if I’d have read this message 2 years ago I would have freaked out. I’ve met plenty of people on this journey that had these concerns and it turned out to be absolutely nothing. Just monitor his progress and speak to the professionals if you feel things don’t improve but try not to upset yourself, I got myself into such a hole and it was awful and silly really. As even though my son has some difficulties he’s happy and we’re happy.
Take care x

@Bpr187 Thank you so much for the answer! I’m not from UK, so i apologize if i make any mistakes.
Anyway, I wanted to know when did your son started walking? What can he do now? Does he have some words? How is his understanding?
My son is 17 months old and i’m pretty sure he is autistic. We started Hanen more than words family program and i can see he is improving. He is not walking yet and all he can say is “mm” on “maa”. Understanding is very limited, he does point, but the pointing is not to share something with me. He just points ar everything but does not look back to me. He also sleeps very poorly and i have to nurse him to sleep. His fine motor skills are also very behind.
Could you please tell me more about your son. As you probably know, reading other peoples stories can help to deal with this kind of worry :)
Thank you!

@Bpr187 Did your son had any MRT or EEG ?

Sir ,same position with my child

How's your child now is it ok please reply sir is it to worry?

I know this is an old post but I was wondering if you had an update. My son doesn’t make a lot of eye contact and it’s really concerning me. Thanks!

I know this is an old post but I was wondering if you had an update. My son doesn’t make a lot of eye contact and it’s really concerning me. He is 5.5 months. Thanks!

My son is 6 months old and is quite advanced. He sits up, he's vocal he's hitting his milestones and more.

I am worried about him because he won't look at me when he sits on my lap or lays down next to me. Anytime he's really close to my face he will look anywhere but in my eyes or at my face at all. I don't know what to do or if this is normal but it doesn't feel normal.

He looks at me when I'm not too close or if someone else is holding him he smiles at me and laughs with me from a distance but never up close.

What should I do? Do I need to do anything? Is he ok ?

How is he doing now?
my son is doing the exact same

Hi I just wondered what happened with your baby in the end? Are they fine now or diagnosed as on the autism spectrum? I am experiencing the same thing with my 6 month old now and am worried

Hi, how is your baby doing now? My daughter is the same and I am worried

Hi, any updates here? My 6.5 month old will not look at us in the eyes if we hold
him in front of our face or if we sit him on our lap facing us. Otherwise he will look at us and smile sometimes. He will not look at strangers nor smile at them. Sometimes when we leave him to play and come back into the room, he wont turn his head to acknowledge us :(

@Worriedjo@Kkmmm@Trapani@MeMyselfQuietly can I ask about your children’s progress please? My little one is the same as you’ve described - thank you!