Lack of support in adulthood

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I had a good childhood. But as an adult I feel really unsupported. Does anyone else feel this way?
My dh suffers mental ill health. I try hard to stay in contact with friends and family. But I feel like it is always me who makes the effort.
My parents last visited 6 months ago. I have 3dc and would love to see more of my parents. I have invited them, and visited them, but they say they are busy.
Everyone is busy. I know that. I don't have much time for socialising as my kids are young and I work. I have some friends but no-one close who lives nearby.
I talk to one of my siblings (I have 3) a lot, but when I suggested meeting up, she suggested October.
I don't want sympathy. I do, maybe, want perspective, or ideas. I mostly am just looking for solidarity if possible! Does anyone else feel like they need more support as an adult? Just someone checking up on them, or putting them first? I know I am a grown up now, and most days I just get on with it. I am a really happy, fulfilled person in general, but I just feel a bit lonely I think.

I very much feel the same as you. I feel that friends really never contact me unless I make the move first. I wonder if they would notice if I moved away.

I don't think you'll be alone feeling like this. I've joked in the past to my DH that we should move to the other side of the country and take bets on how long it would take for people to notice - people really are all so busy, us included, that it's easy to feel a bit invisible.

Glad to hear I am not alone. Thank you. I guess that's why it is important to keep checking up on people.