DP behaviour - passive aggressive?

[usercheeselover]

I don't feel like AIBU so let's chat!

DP has been grumpy lately. A lot.
He misses his DC who we have EOW. Teen girls for the record. But it's more than that. He's grumpy. Our relationship is currently difficult.

My DC are younger tweens.
On Sunday, we decided to watch a film around 7.00 but DD had a shower before. She left a conditioner bottle in the shower. She was hurrying for the film.

On Sat, DP bought new hair stuff for his girls (not their weekend with us) and he put them away on the bathroom shelf.

Back to Sun, After the film, he put DD forgotten bottle in her bedroom without saying anything.

I told him it was passive agressive (because he was already in a bad mood) and why couldn't he put it on the bath shelf.

He totally disagrees that she should learn her lesson by having it her room.

Is he being a dick?

He totally disagrees that she should learn her lesson by having it her room

What lesson does she need to learn?

I'm not sure he's a dick but it's definitely odd.

Most men I know wouldn't even register if there was a bottle of conditioner In the shower. What exactly is the problem with a bottle of conditioner being in the shower? Isn't that where it should be???

What lesson? I have no idea what you’re talking about

Wtf are you and he on about? Isnt shampoo and conditioner supposed to live on the bathroom shelf/tub side?

What?!?

He moved her shampoo??

Where the hell do you keep your conditioner if not in the shower?!

Sorry I vanished. It was quiet and I figured I hadn't made any sense.

It's a small shower with full enclosure so stuff goes back on the shelf outside. She left it in the cubicle.

So he moved it but to her bedroom and not the shelf. Yet he put his DD stuff on the shelf away.

He just so moany and it puts me on edge so the things I think he does that are ridiculous he justifies till he's blue in the face (and still angry).

That sounds pretty miserable actually. Tell dd you’re sorry he’s grumpy and he didn’t mean it. Tell dp you are absolutely fed up you will throw all of his and his daughters toiletries out the window unless he can be kinder to the children he lives with. And if he blows up, do it. Plenty of time for him to pick up his daughters toiletries before they come back to stay so they won’t be affected.

Thank you time
Funny but you seem to understand
Being a step parent is so fucking hard
And his anger is clouding everything - I'm so fed up living with rage and pretence