When you have a visitor,

[MrsWhisker]

do you expect anything of them?

I mean like, an interest in where you live?

An interest in your suggestions for activities?

Perhaps they suggest things of their own they might like to do?

I've got a visitor - fil - for two weeks and so far , after five days, he's shown zero interest in doing anything.

He gets up late. That's fine. He's polite and friendly.

But he doesn't want to do anything really. Wants to sit about reading his book or tablet.

He's fit, cheerful and able bodied but has zero curiosity or even interest in anything outside of the house.

I guess it's not really my responsibility but I curious as to why one would visit and not want to do anything.

How old is he? Do you have children he enjoys seeing? Has he visited before and seen local area? Is he worried about costs? Does he think he would inconvenience you? If he is happy in his own company I’d leave him. Is he recovering from a long journey to you?

Sounds a bit like my BIL. Perfectly happy to sit and do sudoku all day, literally from morning till night, stopping only for meals. Unlike your FIL, he’s morbidly obese, strong but unfit, so there’s probably some cause and effect going on.

I found him easier to deal with when I stopped trying to generate conversation and accepted sitting in endless silence. It was strangely restful.

What is he visiting for? Just for a break and to see you? If so it sounds like he’s doing just that - having a relaxing time and enjoying your home and company. Not everyone wants to be out and about and unless you live in a major city or a place of spectacular natural beauty etc he might just not be particularly interested in where you live.

I think I know where you're coming from. When I go to different places I like to go out and see things and make the most of the area but my husband's family are really happy to just stay inside in a different environment and watch the hours pass by. It took a while to adjust and I struggle to go away with them as we have different ideas of what makes a trip enjoyable but each to their own!

Some people are like this in general.