Last week my lovely mum passed away very suddenly. I’ve had lots of lovely messages of support from friends old and new, which has been fab. I’ve also had a message from someone who was my absolute best friend between the ages of about 14-20, we were inseparable-Like sisters. During our twenties we drifted a little but still remained very fond of one another and in regular contact. She came to our wedding 12 years ago. And then halfway through an email conversation regarding meeting up in 2009 she just dropped off the face of the earth. Phone calls/text messages/emails unanswered. Anxious I contacted her sister who confirmed she was fine, and I know through her that indeed she’s since got married and had a couple of kids of her own. Her ghosting me affected me profoundly, I was very upset for years about it, but had to accept that for whatever reason she no longer wished to be friends and that was that.
Anyway she has randomly got in touch to say that she’s sorry about my mum and how upset she is. And I have no idea how to respond. I didn’t even recognise her name on Facebook messenger because she’s married now. Scrolling back through messenger is really upsetting, because I can see the sheer number of times that i tried to get in touch with her and she just didn’t reply.
Am obviously quite nosy and would like to know a) how she is and b) why the hell she just decided 11 years ago to fall off the face of the earth and never reply to a single message ever again. Do I reply or ignore? We have no mutual friends so nothing to lose either way.