Will this lead to anorexia in DD later on?

[Moominmummy12]

DD (age 9) is tall and skinny and is at an age where she’s conscious of image.
I’d like to think we have a fairy healthy diet. Mostly home cooked food. My worry is that she’s constantly asking me for treats. I mean constantly. In her snack for school, after school, after tea.
Today she’s had cake at school, pack of mini biscuits, few mini eggs, mini roll.
But she also wanted lollipop and magnum which I didn’t give her.
I just want her to have everything in moderation but feel like I’m always saying no. Really want her to have a healthy relationship with food and not lead her to eating disorders
What do others do?

My lean (ribby, low end of healthy weight) DCs have always had hearty appetites and at 7 & 9 easily eat about the same as me. Boy do I notice when their appetite goes up for a growth phase.

Our evening dinner is quite late so our after school snack is more of a light tea.
Snacks are refused shortly before a meal, otherwise, I try to fill them up on more filling foods. We don't tend to keep a stock of biscuits/ chocolates, but the crisps tend to survive quite well. They quite often come home with sweets and are welcome to eat them when they get in.

I talk about a healthy diet being varied and the jobs that different foods do.

Anorexia is a complex mental illness, but getting too het up on good foods and bad foods can cause poor eating habits. There is a balance between having too much of a similar type of food and being overly restrictive. If I felt that my DCs had too much sweet stuff for one day but were still ravenous, I'd direct them to something different and more filling.

To be quite honest it just sounds like she's hungry!

If she's tall and skinny maybe she needs bigger portions at meal times than you're currently giving her. Is she very active/Sporty?

How's your and if dad at home dads weight?

Also she may be entering puberty which also requires more calories. Teens/adolescents actually need more calories than adults.

Snacking isn't in itself unhealthy, my dd (now grown) has a disability which means both that she has a higher metabolism than most but also cannot manage big meals at once so she has 6 small meals a day and has for years. It's the only way she was able to maintain a healthy weight and not drop to being underweight.