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dad isn’t bothered about his son

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Random111 · 09/03/2020 19:28

I’m very young. In fact I’m 16. I had my baby at 15. It wasn’t a planned pregnancy however my boyfriend said he would stick with whatever decision I made. So I’ve had my baby and he’s now 10 months old. It saddens me and makes me very angry at the fact his dad never see’s him, offers to take him out or buys him things. I’m not shaming him because if he wasn’t ready to be a dad then he shouldn’t haveto be however he has his name on the birth certificate etc which tells me he wants to be a dad. My son doesn’t even know who he is. As we are young we do not live together and when he comes round he does not help in the slightest. He can’t wash pots or cook or clean or even dress his son. He’s never wanted to learn any of these things. When DS visits his house on a weekend he sees him only for an hour as he prioritises work. He often accepts working earlier or later and he always buys himself gifts before sending me any money for DS. Am I being too harsh on him? I bring these issues up with him and he promises to try better. However I have realised that this isn’t the case. An example of this is today I was very poorly, he wasn’t doing anything today however didn’t offer to come and take DS out while I got some rest or anything. Barely even asked about him. I just feel like giving up. However I find him helpful just to be there as I don’t really have any friends to talk to. He’s more like a huge comfort blanket. I’m not sure what to do. Please nice replies only. I’m in need of genuine advice x

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Teacaketotty · 09/03/2020 19:57

I’m so sorry you are going through this, in all honesty you are not being hard enough! He may be young but clearly is not ready to be a parent, despite the fact it is his responsibility and he should support you financially. Have you contacted the CSA about maintenance? If not you need to ASAP, spending his money on himself when he isn’t supporting his child is not okay.

Unfortunately I think it’s time to realise you cannot rely on him to help you, make plans for yourself and move on as a single parent but don’t let him pick you up and drop you when it suits!

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