How to disengage - confused

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Hi all. Quite new to MN so please go easy with me! I need to disengage from my adult sd for my sanity and my marriage. I’ve put in a lot of years with her but she is nearly 30 now and things are not great between us. Currently we are NC but it’s only been a few weeks. We have to go to a family party soon which is going to be a challenge. How do you truly disengage from someone who is still active in the wider family? Do I just distance from all of them? (inlaws - we’ve never been close tbh). I don’t know how to go about this with dignity and class!

I’d say the main thing is to be civil and polite as far as possible. If she won’t acknowledge you / ignores you, that’s up to her but at least you’re not lowering yourself to that level. You can have your boundaries but keep your dignity in tact at the same time.

The above poster is spot on. You don't have to make a deal of it and certainly don't cut out other family members