Bedroom dilemma - WWYD?

[TabithaTheTiger]

I've got a bit of a dilemma at the moment with my adult DC and bedrooms, so I'm looking to canvas opinion on what is fair.

I'm a single parent and we've been renting the house we live in for 5 years. I have 2 DC, 20 and 18. Currently, DD1 has the largest room (small double). DD2 has the box room, which is very small, 6x8 with a wardrobe over the stairwell. You can get a single bed in there, not much else.

DD1 started university last September and lives in halls. DD2 wanted to swap rooms as soon as she moved out, but not wanting her to feel pushed out, I agreed we would wait until the end of the first year to make sure she settled in. DD1 was aware of this.

She loves uni and has settled in well. However this week has called me to say she's decided she wants to move back home next year and commute. We live about half an hour from the uni, so this is perfectly feasible. She's been looking at student houses for next year and realised she will be much better off financially as home. We live in the SE so renting is expensive.

My dilemma is that DD1 has assumed she will be moving into her old room, DD2 (who is now working F/T) is outraged and thinks they should swap. I'm swaying towards agreeing with DD2, as the chances are DD1 will spend a lot of time at her bf's anyway, but DD1 does have a lot more stuff (musician).

WWYD?

DD2 gets it.
When I went to uni I told my younger sister she could have the bigger room. Its the kind thing to do. When I returned at October half term they had already switched!

Why not tell them if they cant agree they can share big room and make box room a study for them

I agree DD2 should have it. Dd1 has enjoyed it for (presumably) 18 years purely by virtue of being the oldest, it’s time to swap.

I think even if they were both still at home full time it would have been fair for them to swap and for your youngest to have the bigger room for a bit. Would she let her sister keep some stuff in there?
Did your eldest share any of her space with her sister?

Definitely DD2 gets a turn with the room. The instruments will have to be stored somewhere else.

Agree with everyone saying DD2 gets it. She should have got it as soon as Dd1 moved out. She wasn’t being pushed out, its just silly to have a big room sitting empty.

Agree they should swap and it should have been done sooner.

DD2's turn. I wouldn't even have waited more than a month or so settling in period from when DD1 went to Uni to move her in there.

Move DD2 in there ASAP.

Let them fight it out. There's people have to put up with much worse.

DD2 gets the room; it’s fair that she should have a turn now in the bigger room and it’s not her fault that DD1 has changed her plans

I can't believe there's a debate (or that you made your dd2 wait a year!). Dd2 should obviously get a turn at having the larger room.

Your dd1 has the choice to stay in student accommodation if she doesn't want the smaller room. Even if she didn't have a choice, it would be fair for both dc to take a turn with the rooms.