Help - should I stop toilet training

[Motherofmonsters]

Hi,

I've been potty training DS 2.5 for a couple weeks but not sure if I need to stop as I'm not really getting anywhere but also I've gone so far I don't know if I should preserve.

If he's at home and naked he will take himself to the potty.

The first week he did really well with me prompting/bribing him to go. However this week he has either cried when ive said you can have X if you try for the toilet or very reluctantly went. A couple times he has asked for a nappy.

I've noticed he will do like a pre wee, like a few drops on his trousers. when I notice this I say quick let's go to the toilet and he'll happily go but that's the only time.

I've found myself getting a bit frustrated with him as he messes about in the bathroom.

If he wets himself he does notice and gets upset.

Really not sure what to do

Thank you

I only started as he was taking his nappies of after going in them and then using the potty by himself. It wasn't something I actively started he just showed interest

Leave it for a bit. I forced potty training too early with my daughter when she was the same age as your DS. All it did was make her develop a resistance to going to the toilet and to start withholding. And I don’t know if it was connected but she wasn’t dry at night until she was six.

With my son, I just left it until after his third birthday and he started asking to use the big boy toilet. He didn’t even do the potty stage. He was dry during the day and at night within a week.

Sounds like he’d not quite ready. In my slim experience of 2 children , if they are ready, they’ll get it in a few days. With DS we gave up after 4 days as DS wasnt getting anywhere much. But he knew that pants are an option and asked for them 2 weeks later. He was trained, wees and poos, night and day, within a fortnight.

DD asked for pants one day and was trained in 48 hours.

Well I thought I would give him one more day yesterday and we had zero accidents. He went to a class, beach and parents house. Went when asked no problem.

Today Ive had two accidents already, one when eating breakfast and another a minute ago. He went oh no and sat on the potty but it was too late.

I think you should keep it up once started.
There's a misconception that it only takes one week when they're ready but it can take longer. It's training after all, something they learn which can take time. there will be lots of accidents and it will be frustrating but it sounds like he already has an idea what to do. Being commando at home is the first step.
I started at 2.5 and it took 6 months for me to be confident he wouldn't wet himself and to be in a place where he took himself to the toilet without being asked. Wasn't forced or that he wasn't ready it just takes time and perseverance.

I’d leave it. I had similar with my DD and persevered for WAY too long. Gave up, tried again later and it was all fine.

My daughter, now 4, has always been the most stubborn child you’ll ever meet. Just before she turned 3 we had a go at toilet training and she just wouldn't go, she wasn’t having accidents she was holding it for up to 12 hours. We gave up after a few days because I was worried about her ending up with a urine infection.

We never mentioned it again until one morning when I was getting her dressed I just asked if she wanted her big girl pants. She said yes and that was it.

I’d give up for now and try again in a few months.

I waited until my DC had just turned 3 until I started ‘training’. They got it in 2 days so there was really no training involved at all - they were just ready and so got the hang of it immediately. My MIL had been saying for ages that I needed to start toilet training but I knew that it wasn’t the right time. I’m so glad I waited as it was completely stress free and so easy. I’m not saying this to sound smug by the way, just to suggest that you wait a bit longer. If they’re ready they we will pick it up very quickly. Most of my DC’s friends were out of nappies earlier but they all had weeks of washing and frustration as they went through what you’re describing.

I had something similar with DS1 at the same age and just left it for a couple of months. He then trained much more quickly.

I don’t think he was picking up the I need a wee signals reliably enough when he was younger.

I would continue, he seems to be getting the sensation and knowing what to do but not quite quick enough to do anything about it. Get some pull ups for wearing anywhere an accident would be really inconvenient. It takes a long time for some people to break a habit just give him time.

DD just decided one day around the same age she wasn't wearing nappies anymore. But I think it helped that she is very tall and therefore her bladder was bigger and she could go longer without needing to go.

Make new habits with him, perhaps go to the loo at the same time with him that way it might set his body into a more predictable pattern.

I just feel a bit like we've been going to long to stop.

How do you stop sounds like an easier question but he gets excited about picking his pants. Last night he cried when DH tried to take them off him.

He won't wear them at home, he will pee and take them off or just goes naked

Nappies that is